2. THE INTERCOURSE IS NO SHAME
The attitude condemning eroticism comes from a wrong tendency of separating the body from the spirit. In this vision, sexuality is the libido, the instinct beyond control. From this comes the tendency to repress sexuality, which is nonetheless a very dangerous tendency, according to psychologists.
Even today, after the so-called sexual revolution of the 60s, this bizarre, repressed attitude generates inner conflicts and casts shadows over our feelings on the erotic act.
Tantra reveals thus new paths of access to the erotic experience, paths in which Tantra is honoured as a celebration, an act of creation, an art.
3. THE INTERCOURSE IS NATURAL, THEREFORE DO NOT BLOCK OR HINDER IT
The folk traditions say: “When its hot its hot. When its not hot, its not hot.” Do not resist your inner impulses; do not resist your libido. Let it live and find its expression. Nature knows best.
Frequently people consider that introducing certain specific techniques into ones sexual life
equals to a decrease in spontaneity. However, the way in which we manifest our sexuality is not as natural as it may seem on a first look. It is strongly influenced by the cultural and educational conditions.
For instances ideas such as: “men prefer blondes” or “the greatest orgasm is ensured by a huge penis” are definitely influencing our reactions during lovemaking.
These thoughts are the results of the society in which we live and they influence our entire intimate life. The greatest part of our erotic responses is made of mere learned, acquired responses.
We often tend to react automatically based on subconscious accumulations, due to our
experiences, parental conditionings, and education.
Tantra teaches us to transform and decode the responses of our bodies while making love. This is not just a formal practice; it is a preparation for being able to make love in a genuine manner.
After you had learned these techniques, you will discover that you will be able to integrate them
effortless in your love life and your spontaneity and naturalness remain unharmed.
4. NO TABOOS IN LOVEMAKING
A reader of our web magazine wrote that after a number of years she succeeded in having an orgasm through masturbation, yet the doctor told her this is an unhealthy thing. For many people, especially women, the influence of the “experts” in the field has created “rules” in how to obtain pleasure.
Tantra dissolves all these distinctions. In Tantra, there are no “wrong” ways of experiencing orgasm, nor wrong ways of making love. However, we need to make it very clear that Tantra does not imply homosexuality, or any perversions that might cross ones mind.
It is a healthy attitude supported on powerful and precise principles. Tantra simply eliminates any wrong mentalities or attitudes. It teaches us to believe in ourselves and to discover our uniqueness and originality in our eroticism.
It teaches us that orgasm is not a sexual event, but that it may get to the whole body, mind,
heart, and spirit.
5. THE ORGASM DOES NOT MEAN EJACULATION
Many people were thought to believe that orgasm is something that refers to the genitals only. Someone, after years of erotic experiences, noted that “after all the sexy movies that I saw, after all the techniques and vibrators that I used, my sex life has not changed notably, and it did not acquire a clear sense either. It was still the ejaculation of the seminal liquid in the vagina.”
Consequently, one needs to suffer a change in the vision on sex and eroticism, rather than simply a change of sexual technique. One needs to understand deeply the unbreakable relationship
between sexuality and spirituality.