How Can I Have Multiple Orgasms?

It is customary (nonetheless false) to believe that the masculine orgasm is the same with ejaculation. Let us see what really happens during this process.

If a man makes love and reaches the point of non-return, he will reach the climax and then sink into the stupor of post-ejaculatory abyss. After ejaculation, most men discover that they are at the minimal stage of their ejaculation and that they have to climb back gradually.

However, most men think that the purpose of lovemaking is ejaculation. Ejaculatory orgasm may appear as a passionate race, but after you experience the ecstatic, prolonged bliss of multiple orgasms, this ejaculatory discharge will seem fade and disappointing, unable to stand the comparison.

As in the case of any orgasm you experimented so far, you will sense first excitation (either because of a physical stimulus, or because of a thought, fantasy, etc.). This state of excitement usually leads to erection and, if the stimulation begins, you may experience different degrees of excitation, until reaching the “contraction” stage of an orgasm.

This stage is in fact the crossroads, as it may lead either to ejaculation, or to multiple orgasms. During the contraction stage, you may perceive a series of contractions of the prostate gland, each of them lasting from three to five seconds.

Although the intensity of these pleasant pelvic orgasms varies, and they may often be just as intense as the orgasms in the ejaculatory phase, in the beginning they may be moderate.

Now is the moment when you have to decide: instead of going on, continuing to the point of non-return, followed inevitably by ejaculation, or stop for some moments, until you are in control of your excitation rhythm by slowing down your respiratory rhythm and maintaining a calm and attentive attitude.

Another method is to contract your PC muscle around the vibrant prostate, until you gain some control over these spasms. By directing the energy from the area of the genitals on the spine, towards the upper parts of the body, will help you eliminate the pressure and the urge to ejaculate.

The level of the arousal will gradually decrease, preparing another genital orgasm. Such multiple orgasms will lead to a different level of arousal, which builds up each time.

Important note: if you crave for the orgasms in the contractile phase, there is a great risk for you to ejaculate. Most men have discovered that they have to cease all stimulation right before experiencing this type of orgasm.

Many men practicing sexual continence tell how they “withdraw” in non-ejaculatory orgasms instead of rushing on to ejaculate. The idea is to be able to “stay” in this point without reaching the point of non-return. You will thus feel the pleasure of the contractions of the PC muscle, as well as those of the anal muscles.

It is up to each man how close he may get to experience the multiple orgasms from the contraction phase. You will experience waves of ecstatic pleasure, and if your lover is a multi-orgasmic woman, who practices the sexual continence as well, you are heading for paradise, as both of you will experience states of prolonged orgasms.

You no longer need to worry about making your lover orgasm, and then have an orgasm of your own. The two of you rather have the opportunity to experience in the same time intense states of pleasure and happiness.

If you have difficulties in differentiating orgasm from ejaculation, you may start directing the energy up the spine, before reaching ejaculation.
According to the Tantric and Taoist traditions, the key in getting an all-body orgasm is to sublimate the sexual energy.

Once you succeed in sublimating this energy, you will discover in amazement that you experience orgasmic sensations with other parts of your body, ones that you never considered orgasmic before.

The voluntary contraction of the PC muscle is also a great help in increasing your sensitivity of the pelvic area, as well as in controlling the orgasms in the contraction phase.
If you should ejaculate – which may happen while you are in the beginning of this practice – do not feel highly disappointed, not frustrated.

However, such experiences must not repeat too often. Nonetheless, transform them into opportunities to experience and to know better your body and its mechanisms. Remember that practice requires time, and intimacy, both for yourself, and for your lover.




A great secret in the practice of sexual continence is the learning of the mechanism of orgasm. There are, both men and women so skillful in the art of love with sexual continence that they can experience at will orgasmic states and even induce these ineffable states in others, even without physical contact.

The sexologists define the orgasm in a non-poetical manner. They say that the orgasm is “a trance accompanied by the losing of the contact with the reality”.

By the tantric opinion, the orgasm is a beneficial state of expanded consciousness in which the usual limits of the being are spontaneously dropped, limits of the mind are abolished and the subject plunges into the abyss of beatific void.

When one lives the orgasm, he/she discovers with amazement the abandon of himself facing the ecstatic experience, the abnegation, the “death” of the ego, the dissolution of time and space, the bursting of a state of unity of contraries.

All these effects make the state of orgasm be identical with the state of spiritual bliss. For this very reason, in Tantra, the state of spiritual illumination is also named “Cosmic Orgasm”. So, do not mix up the orgasm with a simple pleasure or sexual satisfaction.

Even though lately a lot is spoken and written about Tantra, just a few really knew what does it mean. Tantra is an Eastern spiritual system that has as main purpose the “unification of the contraries at the all levels of the human being”.

In Tantra, the man and the woman are seen as expressions or reflections of the two most fundamental macrocosmic energies, represented by the Shiva (the male principle) and Shakti (the female principle), in any form they would appear.

The balanced union of the two opposite poles, the female one (yin, negative) and the male one (yang, positive) drives, in the end, to the liberation of mind and body, a liberation of the presupposed endless cycle of unconscious reborn and ultimately to the deification of the human being.

The man and the woman potentially include in their beings the entire world’s possibilities and experiences. When they are in fusion, these possibilities reveal themselves in a new harmonious way and produce an Ineffable Unity, a state which is at the basis of the entire creation.

Tantra can reunify a scission produced a long time ago in the western society between the sex and spirituality. In no other source can you meet such harmony between sex and spirituality. Tantra is a way of spiritual evolution, of love fusion integrated as a sacred act, which has the only purpose to drive us closer to the Supreme Absolute (God).

In order to facilitate such a fusion at the all levels of the human being, Tantra uses a variety of physiological, psychological, devotional and spiritual techniques. We aim to present the most representative and efficient techniques.

Tantra is absolutely not in contradiction with the Christian religion and for this it can offer to the modern and over-challenged men an accessible manner to improve his life, to be happier, to make peace within himself and with the others, to live the erotic fusion more profoundly, more intensely and more prolonged.

Tantra or the cult of ecstasy is a spiritual way rather based on the mystic experience of the play than on the rigid dogmas, as it could be wrongly thought.
In Tantra, the erotic act becomes sacred, being a veritable cult, an adoration. It is a life gift. The tantric art, the lyrics and the rituals glorify the erotic act.

The tantric adepts proclaim the life entirely and learn to discover the divine spark in the human being. They use all their senses, the mind and the spirit to reach the summits of the mystic experiences.

Tantra offers a vision of the illumination and of the transcedency totally different from all the other branches of yoga. In Tantra, the path towards liberation passes precisely through the heart, which is to be consciously opened to the others.

In other words you can make your dreams come true without abandoning yourself in the passion wave but submerging in a perfectly controlled way into this tumult. You can reach this by acting with a respectful prudence, with an open mind, and at the same time by employing certain esoteric keys that will allow you to control the subtle energies of the human being.

Let’s take the sexuality as an example. If you would succeed in controlling this huge energy you will be very sexual and you will be able to do this without losing your control over the impulses and desires of lower vibratory frequency.

Among these lower, more primary, carnal, degraded vibratory frequencies we can mention the jealousy, the possessiveness or the vulgar lasciviousness.

For men, the entire art of Tantra is to animate and to keep avoiding the ejaculation, to slow the rhythm of movement, to maintain yourself very close to the “point of no return” but in a safe zone, maintaining, extending and amplifying in this way the spiritual energy.

This “avoiding” of losing the control is, in fact, the transmutation of the seed in energy and the sublimation of the resulted energies into more elevated forms: vitality, refined erotic experience, pure will, affectivity, superior intuition, power of mental concentration, abnegation to be in fusion with the absolute. Acting in this way the man becomes an “incarnation” of Shiva, the male universal principle, the “Father” of the entire creation.

For women, the tantric art is to give themselves to their lovers in an aware and loving way, being the material manifestation of the mysterious energy of the Universe – Shakti or the “Mother” of the entire creation.

Thanks to this transfiguration, both lovers can reach a profound feeling of secret peace and inner calm. By elevating their inner state they surpass the rush, the insecurity or the stress. Now they fight for nothing and they accept with detachment and lucidity all that is offered by life.

Once this state is reached, it becomes easily possible to make love for hours, while maintaining a state of meditation all the time.
Tantra cannot be reduced only to sex. In fact Tantra is an inner spiritual attitude. Many men are tempted by it but as it is said: “many come, few are chosen”.

To understand Tantra and then to wisely practice it, you need an open mind, intelligence and courage. These qualities are extremely rare for the epoch we are passing on, a period of spiritual decline (Kali Yuga). Here is the reason why nowadays so few men are capable of practicing Tantra, even tough many men are imaging they can.

The indispensable condition for a veritable tantric practice is the right information concerning the techniques, the methods off approach, and the presence of a tantric master to continuously supervise your progresses.

“Nobody will succeed to obtain perfection by using difficult and dull operations. Perfection can easily obtained by the use of the most satisfying of all desires.”

Kularnava Tantra

Tough these two sciences have different objectives, one spiritual and the other experimental, they often meet in an amazing manner. The “horizontal” study of sexology does not get as close to the spiritual, “vertical”, magic aspect of sexuality, which is specific to Tantra. Sexology is a medical science of the sex, which studies its physical and psychical aspects and dysfunctions.

From the tantric point of view, sex is considered to be the “brain” where the alchemycal transformations of the sexual matter in energy take place. Tantra starts from the point where sexology ends. Evens so, the sexology often describes certain special orgasmic experiences similar with those described by Tantra Yoga.

According to the contemporary sexology and the tantric tradition, in order to obtain a profound sexual harmony in couple and to refine the love experience, it is recommended to consider the following elements:

  • The suppressing of the sexual taboos
  • Being very much aware of everything – sensations, energies and feelings related to the sexual organs
  • The aspiration towards a spiritual kind of eroticism, by stimulating the tension of libido
  • The physical and psychical sexual auto-stimulation
  • The training and the practicing of the neuromuscular relaxation
  • The education and the gymnastic of the intimate (sexual) muscles
  • The active participation of the woman in the love fusion