Woman’s Spiritual Sense of Life

There is a certain way of looking at the world, accepted by both men and women. There are women who want to be independent, but they are so scared of not belonging to anyone. An unmarried woman feels like she is to be felt sorry for, but an unmarried man is to be envied.

The woman wants to build her fate with her own hands, but there are lots of women who say, if they fail, “I’m only a woman”. Generally there aren’t many young men who make an ideal out of the “I’m getting married” idea, but there are still so many women who do, turning their marriage into a career.

The woman who has to stay home with her children is often identified with the idea of weakness and she is considered a passive human being that needs protection, physical, but also moral, social and legal.

Many people still have the tendency of despising an intelligent, cultivated, active woman because she doesn’t fit the feminine stereotype they know. Just like they tend to despise a sensitive and gentle man because he doesn’t fit their own idea of virility.

In the contemporary society men who succeed are “virile”, which means ambitious, aggressive, without scruples, money chasing and glory chasing. At the same time modest, generous and sensitive men are considered effeminate.

For many men, still, the woman who flatters his ego should be very beautiful, elegant, a good mother, a faithful wife, and also a passive, ignorant and capricious woman. You will hear very often the idea that femininity is the same with passivity, weakness, stupidity and immorality.

Women got to accept their depreciation completely because of their education and of the society. The scorn towards women is still alive at both sexes. There are many women who do not accept them as women being convinced that being a man is the real gift of God.

Menstruation, birth, menopause, they all have created the prejudice that a woman is someone who depends on nature and on her own body and that’s why she cannot reach the levels of intelligence, creativity and spirituality that a man can.

In order to fit the “new image” of femininity, a lot of women waste their few spare time reading stupid magazines, chasing for the dress that will get out of fashion only a few months later, concerning too much about their hair and creating an existence filled with frivolous patterns.

Thus they waste the time they could have used in knowing themselves and this stops them from thinking of the purpose of their lives.

Nowadays, the women, who were underestimated century by century, make the big mistake of wishing to have man’s “superiority”, considering it as true freedom and personal achievement. The woman dreams to replace the man, to become an Amazon.

But it is not solving the problem, but only reversing the roles. Though there are biological differences between men and women that make them behave differently in certain conditions, these differences are too small in comparison to what men and women have in common as humans.

Setting the woman free of all prejudices is not an act that depends only on women. It depends on the entire world. The humanity’s outlook about woman is an expression of its conscience level.

Most women do not know their possibilities, many have been left out in ignorance, and others have given up their studies because they had a baby and many others don’t even have a professional background.

How is it possible for a woman to become independent and to have a creative activity when her soul and mind are not treated the right way, are not cultivated? The problem for a woman is to know how to resist the society’s conceptions about women and how to open up to her real mission, which is a spiritual one.

There were times when the woman was more than a simple human being. She was the embodiment of Fecundity, Earth, Nature and Life. She was identified with the goddesses that governed the different aspects of life and thus she was considered sacred.

The woman was worshiped in certain periods of time. She was a goddess or a priestess (the vestals, the hetaerae) or she was a muse. She was the embodiment of Beauty, Grace, Gentility and Kindness. She was the Mother, the Wife, the Lover, and the one who lead the man to God.

She embodied the Absolute and has got the mission of orienting the world to the Ultimate Supreme Reality. The spirit of the Universe comes to meet the man because of the Woman. The Woman’s Greatness is that of leading the world to God.

She holds the world’s possibility to reach the Divine Light through life’s profound spiritualization and also to destroy it by amplifying its inferior tendencies. The Woman always comes up or falls because there is no other option for her.

Waking up the feminine qualities is the way she gives herself to life. She cannot find fulfilment outside her being, except by accepting herself completely and consciously. And acceptance means not only becoming aware of her being a woman physiologically speaking, but also becoming conscious of her feminine qualities and of her role in this world.

Her spiritual sense of life is that of turning people’s limited vision to the essence of the world through the wonderful manifestation of her Femininity. The woman has got the Principle of Creating the Universe in her. This principle makes everything move.

Nowadays women are a lot more open to spirituality than men are, but they are not aware of their power and force that can change and wake up the entire world. They remain weak and passive, lost in small, unimportant things, accepting everything without even thinking of making a difference. And that’s because they do not know that they can do it some other way!

It is time for the woman to learn to know herself better, to remind her of the light in her soul, to admit it and to see it in others, too. It is time for her to show the man the path to the light through her shining way of being. Both of them, together, enriched through love and union, can get higher to Immortality Land.

Spring Women – Confessions


9f80dedd77f9637befae2068cd7f7530Anne tells us: “I discovered, by chance, during an extra-powerful orgasm, that I had physical capacities I did not even dream of. At the moment of the climax, I expressed my pleasure through an “ejaculation“.


It is a very powerful pleasure, which I feel tempted to live again and again, despite the shame that came with it.

I have a relatively normal sex-life and I would have never spoken if I did not notice an abnormal reaction of my organism. I can make it happen at will, but it worries and disturbs me.

I did not dare go to a doctor and get his professional opinion. One day, when I was supposed to meet a legal consultant, I was wrong about the hour of the meeting and I got there earlier than settled. The secretary left me waiting alone, in an isolated room.

What followed was the waiting, boredom, or habit? The answer is uncertain. It is sure however that an irresistible desire to masturbate overwhelmed me. I resisted for a long time, but I felt my clitoris erect. Any move I performed excited me even more.

Unable to resist this drive, I opened my dress, turned my back to the door and I began to masturbate. I had a powerful orgasm in no time, but my hand would not stop, continuing its massage.

A second orgasm, even more intense than the first one came, and in that very moment I heard the sound of an opened door. And the event occurred. Could it have been the shame of being caught, or the fear that got into me? I do not know.

Anyhow, my orgasm dissociated, overwhelming my as a huge wave. I flooded my hand and the chair at the same time. I sat back immediately, and I realized that luckily the opened door was not that of the room I was in, but that of a neighboring room. I was quite disturbed and confused about the liquid that sprung from me and I thought it was urine.

I cleaned everything, of course, but I was stunned. To clear what has happened I tried to reproduce the phenomenon at home, but the result was not satisfying. Then I recreated a situation in which there was the danger of being caught and… eco! The same result: an tremendous orgasm and the “flood”.

The problem is that for this orgasm to occur, as well as the flood, I had to be in the position of being caught, which really is not my type, because I am not an exhibitionist.

I even took samples from the flooding liquid and I took it to a lab, pretending that it was a friend’s urine. I thought it was not normal for a 38-year old woman to pee herself during the orgasm.

On the day of the results, the lab informed me that the friend had not sent urine to analyze, it was something else they did not know and consequently they could not run the tests.

On the other hand, after those orgasms I felt emptied and I got back to my usual “me” after an hour or two.

My question is: If this is not urine, than what is it? It does not look like the lubrication liquid in neither color, nor consistency. It does not seem to have come out of the vagina, because after the “flood”, the think, dense and whitish lubricating liquid is on its place.

Another question would be why did the emotion of being caught made me experience such a powerful orgasm? This somewhat created a state of repulsion in me, as it looks so ridiculous. This pleasure is complete, and so powerful that I was ever tempted to do it again and again, despite of the shame I was feeling. At the same time, the risk of being caught was a real terror.

Miss Trick’s answer: From what you tell us, you have had ejaculations of liquid coming from the sur-urethral glands. These glands of the prostrate type exist in women in the area of the urethra. You seem to have very important sexual pulsions, since you say you masturbated in your counselor’s waiting room.

The fact that you were risking being caught placed you in a particular situation, which most likely triggered a powerful orgasm. It is possible that during this orgasm occurred also a contraction of the pelvis and consequently the content of the urethra was eliminated.

Your observation that the liquid came from the urethra, not from the vagina was correct. You finally describe a phase of exhaustion that made it impossible for you to have an orgasm during the following few hours.

This phase you described is very similar to the post-ejaculatory processes that occur in the case of men. You seem to have a great sexual assurance, which allows you to put in practice, more than other women, your most exotic and daring fantasies.


Virgil tells us: “I made my lover experience a very powerful orgasm, so powerful that she “ejaculated”. Going beyond our surprise, it was an experience we performed again, because at this point nothing else could satisfy her.


I read in a magazine the stories of other women with similar experiences. In the moment of the orgasm appeared a liquid clear as water. The event was ironically named “explosive orgasm” or “U.F.E” – unidentified feminine ejaculation.

I could not believe what I was reading, until it happened to us. Our erotic life had begun for about a month or two, when one night, while I was doing cunnilingus on her, she emitted a liquid that surprised both of us. The same ejaculation occurred when I used my fingers to stimulate her.

I realized oral stimulation is very pleasant for women because it creates very powerful sensations for them. I also noticed that every few minutes she would release a liquid that always surprised me.

My lover experienced these emissions in a very intense manner, and I felt that during those moments for her existed only that immense pleasure in which she floated. Finally, she was completely exhausted and incapable of the slightest gesture.

She needed at least three days before being able to start again. What I do not understand is why this phenomenon occurs only in some cases. I heard a lot of talking about the G-spot, and therefore I wanted to know if there are women who reach the results I mentioned immediately, and if the specialists know anything about this.”

Miss Trick’s answer: The phenomenon we mentioned in the previous articles, kalas are barely accepted, even by the women who experience them. Among the 40 women there were few whose stories were particularly interesting.

In their cases, it was obvious that what happened was not ejaculation. During lovemaking they experienced sensations of an extreme voluptuousness, and they felt their vagina was filled up with a liquid whose provenience they could not explain.

This is a very seldom phenomenon, but which is very clearly mentioned in the entire Eastern literature (see Kama Sutra, Ananga Ranga).

Consequently, female ejaculation is similar to male ejaculation, the effects are almost identical: sudden loss of the erotic appetite, exhaustion, need to sleep.

We do not recommend feminine ejaculation any more than we recommend male ejaculation. In both cases, the sexual energy is lost, and the repetition of this process leads to sickness, exhaustion, and accelerated aging.

The kalas do not represent a loss of the sexual energy, they are physical confirmations of certain intense states of pleasure and beatitude experienced by certain women, exceptionally endowed from an erotic point of view.

Sonya tells us: “I always enjoyed lovemaking. Now I met the man of my dreams. One night, while making love, something very odd occurred: I was very aroused and nothing interested me from the outer surroundings. It was as if I had entered into another world. I did not perceive the walls of my room, I felt only an endless space in which the two of us were making love.


All of a sudden, I felt a liquid flooding my vagina. I had no idea what that was. I felt that a well of life was springing from me. I wanted to stop, but it felt so good that I kept on moving and feeling my lover deeper and deeper inside of me.

He also was surprised by the turn of the events. Nothing else beside our lovemaking seemed to matter for him as well. I felt as if floating in another world. We stopped after two hours or so.

It was the first time when we managed to make love for such a long time. I do not know what that was, but I’d really like to find out so we can do it again. And again. And again…”

Miss Trick’s answer: It is obvious that you experienced an ecstatic state of consciousness during lovemaking. You could maintain your consciousness in this state because of the intense orgasm that you felt. Your immersion in orgasm for a long time determines the occuring of kalas.

The Black Girl’s Secrets And The Sincere Girl’s Secrets

According to the Chinese classical traditions the nine breaths awakened and harmonized form together one Great Breath. This tradition is met in the occult teachings in China, Tibet, India, Egypt and ancient Persia.

“The sexual secret treatise of the Black Girl”, which describes the nine erotic postures includes also a brief description of the nine magical breaths of a woman and indicates certain ways of recognizes their actions.

Eight of the nine breaths are described as being directly linked to sexual manifestation.

The Black Girl explains:
“One may easily recognize THE NINE MAGICAL BREATHS OF A WOMAN if one carefully studies their manifestations. If a vital, beautiful woman breathes deeply and swallows the saliva she abundantly secrets, then undoubtedly the mysterious breath of the lungs is active.

If she begins to whisper love-words and kisses ecstatically her lover, undoubtedly the breath of the heart is active. If she holds her lover in her arms, with great passion, the breath of the spleen has become active.

If her Mystery Cave becomes wet and hot, then the breath of the kidneys is active. If she begins to suck her lover’s tongue, then the breath of the bones is active. If she wraps her legs around her lover’s waist, then undoubtedly the breath of the muscles is active.

If she actively plays with the Jade Cane, the breath of the blood is active. If she caresses with great delight her lover’s nipples and chest, then the breath of the body has become contend.

If all these eight breaths are not properly awakened, the woman will feel discontentment after lovemaking. However if these breaths are gradually awakened, she will enjoy the benefits greatly.

The ninth breath of the woman is awakened when she abandons herself constantly during lovemaking. Then she “perceives” her lover with her lungs, heart, spleen, kidneys, bones, muscles, bones, flesh and with her entire being.

Then the ninth breath becomes active and the woman perceives an unbelievable state of contentment and fulfillment. At this point, the Great Breath is active, and it may be known.

Such an amazing experience is the natural result of passionate lovemaking, performed only with continence. It may even grant the spontaneous perception of the previous lives.

Once a person has directed his or her energy towards the focal point of their being, then an enormous potential is put to our service, helping in the discovery of the “bonds” that maintain the chain of causality. Profound experiences in lovemaking may lead to sudden, unexpected “bursts” of the past.

The experience of the sheer joy perceived through the revelation of the supreme self is mentioned in Tantra Sara as “the supreme stage of fulfillment”. In “The Secret Teachings of Naropa”, a secret Buddhist text, there is mentioned: “the person realizing “the supreme stage of fulfillment” in yoga, which is one of the most effective methods for the awakening and development of spirituality, should aspire with all his or her inner strength to reveal and experience the supreme, eternal Being.

The sign of this experience is an oceanic state of “melting”, of union. Such a person should now attempt to experience the full meaning of the Supreme Self and that of another person’s self.

One may have this ecstatic experience through the stimulation of the power of sexuality and vitality, not allowing the sexual potential to be lost through ejaculation or discharge.”

This stage of “the supreme fulfillment” in yoga involves a complete harmony between the physical, mental, and emotional levels of a human being, and it is the total expression of the oceanic bliss experienced in sexual continence.

The secret Tibetan teachings assimilate it with the moment of genesis and color it with the colors of the ancestral Mother and Father, milky white and blue, respectively.

The great breath is known in the Chinese tradition as PO, and becomes active with the conception. It is formed through the union of the parents and is directly responsible for the development of the vital organs of the baby.

As we mentioned previously, it has nine parts conceived as vital breaths. Normally, these breaths are not awakened, but they begin to awake through lovemaking.

The complementary part of the great breath is the Great Spirit, or HUN, which enters the baby’s body with the first breath of the baby. When a person dies, the Great Spirit leaves the first.

All antic religious systems make the distinction between energy and consciousness. In the antic Egypt Ka and Ba, in China Po and Hun, which are in fact the same with the Tantric forces of the sun and of the moon, feminine and masculine, (+) and (-).

They are the secret connection between this world and the others. Cultivating a deep awareness of these two principles and how they work, knowing their laws certainly helps one achieve the important transformations required on the spiritual path.

“If yin and yang are balanced and in harmony, the breath (the soul) and the spirit will immediately obtain a place in which they may melt together. Yang is the spirit – Hun, the sun (+) and yin is the breath (the soul), Po, the moon (-). If they are able to unite perfectly in a mutual co-existence, then there will be an appropriate state for a spiritual ecstatic conception.” (TS’AN-TUNG-CH’I)

An ancient Chinese tradition mentions how the deity of a river that had the form of a shell incarnated as a very beautiful woman. This legend is in fact a symbol, as the feminine sexual organ is often represented as a shell.

The shell-goddess is famous to this day and is known as the Sincere Girl, one of the three famous masters who initiated the Yellow emperor in the art of love.

The legend also goes that the Sincere Girl invented a sitar with 50 strings, at which she used play for the Yellow Emperor. One day, her work impressed the Yellow emperor to such an extent that he said the instrument was too dangerous for human ears and ordered the sitar to be broken in two, each part remaining with 25 strings.

In the attempt to decipher the real significance of this story we should consider the importance of the number 50 in the Tantric literature and tradition: this is the number of the subtle primordial vibrations of the sound, from which all else was born afterwards.

Thus, the garland hanging on Kali’s neck has 50 craniums, and the Sanskrit language has 50 letters.

The Sincere Girl initiated the Yellow Emperor in the secret methods of the art of love, which grant a high esteem and importance to the sexual continence. Two of the works that are still named after her are “The secret methods of the Sincere Girl” and “The erotic recipes of the Sincere Girl”.

These works contain a number of highly useful information in erotism. In one of the texts, the Sincere Girl says: “the woman is superior to the man in the same way the water is superior to the fire: the people who are experts in the art of lovemaking may be said to resemble the excellent cooks, who know how to combine best the various ingredients in order to obtain a tasty and refined meal.

Those who know perfectly the art of Yin and Yang also know how to combine the elements and obtain the most exquisite pleasures.”

The Sincere Girl then continues with the description of the manifestations of the woman’s most passionate desires and movements.


Here are some excerpts:

The Sincere Girl says that there are five erotic manifestations from which a man can tell if a woman is aroused enough.

1. First, her face becomes reddened with excitement and emotion. At this stage, the man should come closer to her.

2. Then, her nipples harden and her nose becomes a little moist. This is the most appropriate moment for him to begin the foreplay and to engage lovemaking.

3. Thirdly, her throat becomes dry and she begins to swallow her saliva. This indicates that the man should continue his love-movements slowly and sensually.

4. Her jade cave becomes very moist and slippery. At this point the man should penetrate her deeper.

5. Then her intimate secretions begin to flow freely, sign that the man may move at their own will, making her reach the peaks of ecstasy over and over again.

The Sincere Girl then enumerates the five sexual desires through which a man may approximate the erotic response of a woman.
1. If she already desires in her mind and heart to make love, then her breath becomes deep and can be heard. When the arousal increases, she moans.

2. If her jade cave is aroused and she desires to make love, her nostrils will enlarge rhythmically, and her mouth will open in a very inciting way.

3. If her vital essence is effervescent and she desires more arousal, she will begin to rhythmically move her body, arching it very sensuously.

4. If her hearts desire is to get total satisfaction, then her jade cave will become so moist that it will wet even the clothes she might wear.

5. If she is fully prepared to reach orgasm without discharge, she will arch her body languorously as a wild animal surrounding to pleasure.

The Sincere Girl now explained the ten mysterious phases of lovemaking:
1. Embracing the man passionately and loving, the woman shows him that she desires to be embraced and tenderly kissed.

2. Opening her legs incitingly she shows the man that she desires to be kissed on her jade gate.

3. As her pleasure increases, she wants shorter, deeper penetrations.

4. Beginning to move her pelvis back and forth, she indicates that she feels the pleasure growing, and that she anticipates an even greater pleasure coming.

5. Lifting her legs up, she indicates that she desires deeper penetrations.

6. Tightening her legs around her lovers waist she indicates that her jade cave is well-lubricated.

7. Moving her body sensually and especially her bottom from left to right and from right to left she indicates that she wants penetrations on the lateral parts of her vagina.

8. Lifting her trunk and caressing the man with her breasts she indicates that she is really close to the peaks of the pleasure (orgasm without discharge).

9. Relaxing her members and muscles, she indicates that she experienced the orgasm without discharge.

10. As the fluids flow freely and abundantly from her vagina, her lover will enjoy this abundance. This is an indication that she experienced the maximum of the erotic pleasure.

Techniques to Control Male Sexual Energy, Part 1



Sexual continence involves a total aware control of the sexual function during lovemaking. This implies the total experience of the love fusion having the possibility of reaching many orgasms by the two lovers. This kind of love fusion doesn’t end with ejaculation for man or with an explosive discharge of the erotic, sexual fluids for woman.

This technique is also known as coitus rezervatus (refraining the ejaculation) or karezza.
Both lovers, changed between them the sexual energies, but they totally refrains themselves from the orgasm with discharging of sexual energy. The man admits to have the orgasm with ejaculation only when both lovers want to have a baby.

This kind of sexual fusion was named by Dr. Stockham “coitus rezervatus” or “sublimated coitus”.
Karezza recommend also taking total breaks during the moments of intense erotic pleasure. During these breaks the erectile penis should remain immobile in the woman’s vagina, while the lovers are enjoying the mutual transfer of the erotic energetic fluids.
Dr. Stockham stated that by this technique it is achieved the youth and life prolongation. Also the vitality increases.

For women, the control of sexual energy is often spontaneously and implies in very rarely cases a minimum training.
For men, the sexual energy control and the stopping of the ejaculation for long periods (weeks, months, years) implies a gradually and perseverant training.

The stopping of the sexual energy discharge, by the retaining within the body of the sexual fluids of both lovers doesn’t lead to the impossibility of procreation. The man can have the orgasm with ejaculation when they want to have a baby. The researches proved even that in the case of the couple that have practiced the continence the babies are more health and vigorous.

What is happened with the spermatic liquid of the man that practices the sexual continence?

Usually, this is the most frequent question raised by a man when hears about the sexual continence for the first time.
Far being harmful, a long time seminal retention leads to the biological transmutation of the sperm and make possible the sublimation of the huge resulted energy in the superior levels of the human being. This is happened moreover if the retention is accompanied by adequate techniques of raising energy in the superior levels of the human being such as yoga exercises, intense intellectual efforts etc.
Therefore, by transmutation, the sperm is transformed in energy and it is not stock leading to the somatic disturbers.

The beneficial effects that accompany the practicing of the sexual continence are felt different according to the power centre (chakra) that was awaken and harmonized through sublimation of the sexual energy.



Usually the men tend useless to cling to the feeble pleasure that they feel during the orgasm with ejaculation. Even if they understood intellectually the necessity of the sexual continence, they prefer to follow this instinctual way. This fact is caused by the laziness, commodity, or simply by the less of their spiritual mobilization that can draw them out of this morass of animalic sexuality.

To justify in any way his inferior tendency he will try to find various external pretexts. In fact, the reason is only the animal tendency that comes from the subconscious mental. For this reason, it is necessary, for those that are still confronting with such inferior tendencies, a hard training, and an adequate inner discipline.

In this sense, the yoga practice could offer the necessary and sufficient conditions to successfully practice the sexual continence.

One of the most efficient methods to avoid the discharging of the sexual potential is to practice ASVINI MUDRA for long time periods. ASVINI MUDRA means the strong contraction of the anus muscles and maintaining this contraction as long as possible.
This technique, which is extremely simple can be easily done in the “dead” times during a day (during bus or car traveling, etc).
Though it seems to be something extremely simple, yet ASVINI MUDRA has amazing effects in obtaining a very good control of the sexual energy if this technique is sufficiently practiced.

This process implies the successively contraction and the relaxation of the urinary sphincters during the micturate.
The process permits to get the skill of control the sexual mechanisms and to have the consciousness of some process occurred during the discharging. It permits also to anticipate and to avoid the climax, to experiment the orgasm without wasting the sexual energy.

Do not confuse the states of unsatisfying or impotence, when the man doesn’t feel erotic pleasure, with orgasm without sexual energy discharge, which it is strongly euphoric and regenerating.

To obtain a perfect sexual continence you have to start the intercourse having a transfiguration vision of the erotic attraction between a man and a woman and keep this transfiguration during lovemaking. Both lovers have to understand that the sexual attraction has its roots in the primordial attraction between the masculine principle and the feminine one; these two principles govern the entire creation. That is why the lovemaking with sexual continence is a spiritual path through which the lovers can immerse themselves into the primordial love that springs from the fusion between masculine and feminine principle. Thus the lovemaking with sexual continence is a way of rediscovering the UNITY.

Practical advices:
Do not rush and take sufficient time and a lot of patience and love.
For the beginning you have to learn to penetrate your lover very slowly and to be aware of the pleasure states that occurs.

If you feel that the excitation increases very much, you have to slowly withdraw the penis so only 1-2 cm of it remain in the vagina. Stay motionlessly in this position. (In the case that you feel the ejaculation impends, quickly withdraw the penis, with a suddenly move).

Inspire deeply, hold your breath; contract the pelvic muscles (the anal sphincter muscles and PC muscles).
Simultaneously focus your mind over the sperm retention. Imagine your sperm retention. Imagine that an inner alchemy force transforms your sperm in energy. This will help you to avoid ejaculation.

Then focus your mind in order to sublimate the enormous energy that is contained in the sperm. Sublimate it in psychic, mental and spiritual energies by letting the energy of love to suffuse you.

After this short break, that can last 10-50 sec or more depending on your necessity, you can gradually and cautiously resume the penetration movements. If you feel that the excitation is still very intense, you can do many times the above-mentioned method.

The method is also valid for your lover having an increased efficacy if both of you practice it simultaneously (even in the case that one of them hasn’t reached the preorgastic level).


  • At the beginning you have to prove a huge will and tenacity.
  • At the beginning it is better to practice the above-mentioned technique sooner the preorgastic level than latter, when there are less possibilities to successfully stop the ejaculation process.

Sexercises, Part 2

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The next step in becoming a master in the art of lovemaking is the following:

Try to find all the positions in which you can contract your vaginal muscles. Find the suitable rhythms and induce the force you desire.

A very important aspect in performing these Sexercises is the breath. Exhale the air from your lungs, and remain like this, without forcing yourself. Then inhale, and retain your breath with your lungs filled with air.

Now begin to contract your vaginal muscles as many times as you wish, before exhaling. It is very important that during two successive contractions you relax your muscles as this relaxation helps you get a better control at this level.


Contract and relax your muscles at a moderate speed, 20 times. In time, increase the speed and see how you like this.

Contract your muscles, keep the contraction for 3 seconds, relax them the following 3 seconds, and repeat 20 times. Gradually increase the time of the contraction from 3 to 20 seconds.

Contract and relax your muscles as if you simulate a heartbeat. Continue like this for 3 minutes in a row, without pause.

Speed up the SLOW PUMPING. Make sure every muscles is completely relaxed before the next contraction. Continue for 3 minutes, in a row, without pause.

Women prefer several positions in which they perform best these contractions. From these positions, you may chose the one that is most suitable for you. Or maybe those that are most suitable…

Experiment with each individual position, in order to make the best possible decision.

SITTING POSITION: Sit on a chair, with your knees apart.

THE MISSIONARY POSITION: Lie down on your back, with your knees at your chest and spread.

THE FEATHER POSITION: Lie down on your back holding one of your knees at your chest and the other leg stretched.

LATERAL POSITION: Lie on one side and stretch the leg that is below on a 90 degree angle with your body, supporting it on a pillow. The other leg is slightly bent from the knee.

THE RIDING POSITION: Sit with your feet widely apart, knees slightly bent. Bend over a little bit, but keep your spine straight. This position will also force the inner muscles of the thighs, and this will offer you greater flexibility during lovemaking.



46813964a3a6a330af77e8cb9bfc04daAlthough anyone seems to be familiar with the meaning of the term virginity, its initial sense is unknown to most people. In antiquity, this term was not attributed to women who did not have any sexual experiences, but it referred to the social or even psychological state in which a woman is not tied up to a man, she is independent from any man.

Only when marriage, possessiveness, and monogamy became leading rules in our society the fact whether the woman was “untouched”, “pure” and “innocent” or not began to grow in importance.

Proofs of the woman’s virginity were asked, and then began to emerge various habits regarding the loss of virginity. Medically speaking, it appears that many people have been wrong, and many innocent women have had to suffer because if these aberrant preconceived ideas.

Here is what the statistics tell us:

Only 42% of the women are born with a hymen that bleeds, 47% have a very flexible hymen, and 11% have such a thin hymen that it may break at normal movements of the body. Under these circumstances, can the hymen still be such a strict criteria as it has been wrongfully considered for centuries?

For a long time, virginity was considered as a state that should be preserved for as long as possible, being guarded as a precious treasure that needed to be adjudged to the most passionate and perhaps loving of all the competitors.

The mothers, grandmothers and “mademoiselles” of the so-called cultured environments had a saying: “for a woman to lose her virtue is worse than losing her neck”. Even if the words changed, the mentality has remained the same.

Especially for women, the importance of preserving their “virtue” was a taboo subject, in the conditions when men were allowed, even encouraged to lose their virginity, and they were admired, even celebrated on the occasion of this event.

Any man playing the role of a Don Juan in the daily life is regarded with great admiration and considered an intelligent “lady-killer”, of whose virtue nobody cares anymore.

Moreover, his affairs are considered as funny and amusing, actions that test his virility, exemplifying his capacity of controlling the feminine nature.

However, these days things are a bit different, and this is clear, because a great part of the “traditional” vales on feminine “virtue” have changed.

Nowadays nobody needs to steal any body’s “virtue”, moreover, preserving it is considered a kind of old, obsolete capital. Men and women are equally free to lose their virginity whenever they want, and with whomever they chose.

Nonetheless, the loss of virginity remains a crucial moment in each of our lives. Undoubtedly, even today the loss of virginity may be just as traumatic as 50 years ago.

Because it is sometimes confuse, other times exciting, or even frightening, it represents at the same time the passage to adulthood.

However, sometimes this passage is caused either by a desire of rebellion,or by curiosity, other times by a strong sexual drive, and unfortunately more rarely by love.

Is this a common experience? Is it caused by a usual necessity? How does a person prepare for this important chapter in their lives? Most people are not aware of the great impact this experience has on the sexual life of the young adult.

The moment in which the virginity is lost may radically and definitely mark the future sexual live of a person. Therefore, each of us should prepare before making this big step.

Here is what Dan recalls:
“I was at a party and I was pretty excited by the girl I was dancing with. We used to study and hang out together for more than six months. We went up into the bedroom and began kissing. You know how things go from one into another in those times. We began to caress each other everywhere. Although we both were so scared, we were at the same time too excited to stop.”

Did the first erotic experience offer this young man everything he wanted, everything he expected of it?

“It was all so fast, we were so afraid that someone might show up through the bedroom door, that I ejaculated almost instantly.” Did his girlfriend get to have an orgasm? “I frankly do not know. I hope she did.” This is one way of losing your virginity. Not the most desirable, indeed.

However, there are also pleasant instances as the one below: Jenny, a young woman of 18: “I gave myself to my lover when I was 15. We were on a trip, in the mountains. We had been together for 2 years, he was also 15 and we were so much in love with one another. The “event” was sweet and intimate and I really felt it was a step forward in my erotic life.”

Mary, 29 confesses: “Although I had begun to stimulate myself from the age of 12, I still haven’t learned how to let my body go with its desires, with its instincts.

I could not feel the savory pleasure that I now experience every time. Lucky me, my lover was older and more experienced than me, so he knew exactly what and how to do it.

He also had a great sense of humor and knew how to make me feel at ease under any circumstances, so I was not inhibited. I was a bit nervous, as anyone should be, but things were under control and his help and caring were most welcomed and appreciated.”

Most women chose for their first sexual “adventure” older, more experienced lovers. The men go for the same qualities, choosing older women, sometimes even their mothers’ friends, their bosses’ wives, their teachers.

A survey performed on the disputed theme of virginity indicate that not less than 20% of the women have hid this fact from their lovers. Well, this percentage is much higher in the case of men: 50%!

This fact was explained before: the preconceived idea that a man’s virginity is not considered a “prise” as is the case of women; men are supposed to have erotic experience from an early age.

Most people who answered this survey have stated that their first sexual experience took place in a car, in a friend’s house, in a cabin, outdoors, in the green grass.

Only one person confessed it happened in an elevator (how original!). A boy chose an alley in the park, and another has gained his manhood after a tough “fight” on hid girlfriend’s kitchen table.

Most people have reported that the decision was mutual, and 25% of the women confessed they had been talked into doing it by their lovers.

However, this is a big surprise: 33% of the women told that they chose their first lover on the basis of love. Another important reason for getting “there” was claimed to be the curiosity, especially among men.

A striking fact is the following: only very few women based their choice on physical demeanor, as compared to the great majority of men who were actually driven by this aspect.

The problem of virginity certainly appears at least once in every woman’s life. We say that because there are women who sometimes recourse to doctors to “regain” their virginity, out of very personal reasons.

Was your first erotic experience successful? Was it as you wanted it to be? Or was it something transient, without importance, to which you wouldn’t look back?

Spring Women, Myth Or Reality?

Did you know that the women have also the capacity to ejaculate? Did you know that there are women named “spring-women” who have very special sexual secretions, abundant and different from the ejaculatory fluids? Which is the difference between the lubrication liquid, the ejaculation liquid and the feminine exceptional erotic secretions known as “kalas”?


In our society, the sexual education is quite deficitary. Very few people have the minimum of necessary knowledge to what sexuality is concerned.

This education that is lacking is in fact at the basis of a person’s future erotic experience because this education helps a person to be naturally open towards one’s own body and towards one’s own sexuality.

Generally, women have two types of orgasms: clitoral and vaginal. They may experience one or the other or a combination of the two. Clitoral orgasm occurs through the stimulation of the clitoris, is very powerful, but is also superficial.

Vaginal orgasm, including also the stimulation of the G-point is perceived deeper, and offers an extraordinary sensation of pleasure all through the body.

The G-point is located behind the pubic bone, on the abdominal side of the vaginal wall. Introducing the finger inside the vagina, you may feel that the tissue has a different texture in that area, and there are some folds. This is the urethral sponge, the analogue of the prostate in man, having the same structure of the pleasure organ.

The G-point may also be stimulated from outside the body, through the pressure of the inner abdomen, right above the pubic bone.

Some very sensual women may experience cervix orgasm, when the cervix opens up in the moment of the orgasm. This orgasm is the most profound and the most intense.

When a woman is very excited, her erectile tissue is filled with blood, and there is the possibility of ejaculation, due to the great quantity of energy accumulated in that area.

The prolonged stimulation of the area beneath the clitoris, on both sides of the urethral opening, continuing inside the vagina, to the G-point makes the woman experience intense and powerful orgasms.

The experts and scientist in the field of sexology had have endless debates on the margin of female ejaculation phenomenon.

There are very few women who can make the difference between the lubrication liquid, the ejaculation liquid, and certain liquids that appear spontaneously during lovemaking, named in the Eastern tradition kalas.

The ejaculatory secretions are clear and limpid. It is not urine, although the woman may feel as if she is about to urinate when the G-spot is stimulated.

Some people say that this secretion comes from the glands in the urethral wall. It may vary in quantity from several milliliters to several cups. A woman may have several orgasms and still continue to ejaculate over a long period of time.

Due to the lack of sexual education, women often think that they have urinated when in fact they ejaculated. Other sexologists consider that the ejaculating liquid in the case of women is a mixture of lubricating liquid, liquid from the paraurethral glands, liquid from the Bartholini glands and a small quantity of urine.

The feeling of exhaustion following the feminine ejaculation is similar to that perceived by men after intercourse ended with ejaculation.

The tantric tradition sustains that there are women who experience very special states of mind during lovemaking and during these states are also manifested some special liquids named kalas.


The problem is to determine whether these special liquids known as kalas coincide with the ejaculatory liquid or it is something different.

First of all, let us analyze the states and perception of the women who experienced such states: when experiencing an erotic state of such magnitude that it leads to the manifestation of the kalas, the women confessed a deep state of fulfillment, satisfaction, and inner contentment, doubled by an increased erotic appetite, whereas in the case of women who related ejaculatory experiences, the erotic desire decreases, and even disappears for a certain length of time.

Until recently, modern sexologists including Masters and Johnson sustained the theory according to which feminine ejaculation did not exist. However, most recent studies indicate the opposite.

The women need to know their sexual potential, because if they know it, they may apply and use it in several ways, probably the most important at the actual stage of development in our society being the therapeutic use.

Through lovemaking certain old emotional blockages can be eliminated and the woman may experience enhanced erotic pleasure.

From an esoteric point of view, the sexual feminine nectar is associated to AMRITA, the famous “immortality nectar” of the Gods, or the “water of life” known to the initiate people of the Tantra, Taoism, Sexual Magic and Inner Alchemy.

The sexual potential of the woman’s body including the secretion of the sexual fluids was an important secret, revealed only to the worthy ones.

This potential, awakened through certain practices such as the control of the circulation of the sexual energy, and special mediation techniques becomes the vehicle leading one to the spiritual awakening.

The question is how can one differentiate between the two types of orgasm and consequently the two types of liquid, ejaculatory or kalas.

Certain women ejaculate during a very powerful orgasm. However, the studies of this not so frequent phenomenon do not always allow the positive identification of the process that lead to the elimination of the liquid. In certain cases there are glandular secretions, in others simply the relaxation of the bladder.

What are the kalas compared to the ejaculatory liquid?
In certain exceptional moments, when the woman experiences spiritual states the subtle sexual and spiritual energy becomes material and takes the form of the famous kalas. Whatever its origin, this manifestation is the indication of a very intense and special sensuality and feminity.

The Department of Sexology of the University of Quebec, Montreal, conducted a very serious study on this matter in 1998. Small announcements were published in newspapers urging women who had such manifestations to contact the researchers.

40 women answered the announcement. Scientific caution advised the scientists to replace the term “ejaculation” with “expulsion”, during the first inquiries.

The results are as follows: the feminine ejaculation, the corresponding process of male ejaculation has nothing to do with lubrication, because the women have above the urethra glands similar to the men’s prostrate.

The researchers tried to determine whether the liquid eliminated by the women resembled to the prostate liquid. If this theory proved correct, the volume of the eliminated liquid could not surpass the volume-capacity of these glands.

In order to establish a relationship between the feminine and masculine ejaculation, the researchers have agreed on the fact that both the quantities and the quality of the examined liquids are similar.

Another theory on feminine expulsion refers to a possible relaxation of the bladder. Usually the feminine orgasm is followed up by a deep relaxation of the pelvic area, which may determine a small quantity of urine to pass through.

The researchers have analyzed the samples brought in by the women subject to the study, and the results were quite controversial. They researchers did not have enough genuine material to work upon, because in the lab only two of the women masturbated and allowed the liquid to be analyzed.


Part 2 – Confessions

Strengthen Your Sexual Muscles!

xxThe ancient masters of lovemaking from India and China viewed the human body-mind “mechanism” as a bucket full of energy with holes in the bottom where life energy leaked out. These holes are the urethral opening and anal opening and, in the woman, the vaginal opening also. It was believed that when the sexual muscles were strengthened through special exercises they sealed the bottom of the bucket.
The Eastern sexual exercises that we are about to present in the following lines were developed in cultures that placed less emphasis on the genital orgasm. The development of sexual muscles represents a way to achieve, intensify, prolong and control the pleasure in both sexes and also contributes to your growth as a human being.

What kind of sexual muscle do you have to strengthen?
Before you start sexual muscle squeezing, it is most important that you locate the exact muscle involved. The anatomical name of this muscle is the pubococcygeus muscle. It’s called the PC muscle.

How do you find your PC muscle?
It stretches between your legs, from your genitals and your anus. It is part of the pelvic floor in both sexes.
The standard way to find your PC muscle is to stop and start as you urinate. Do this several times. Women need to keep the legs open wide so that the muscles in the buttocks don’t add confusing signals. Another way is to pretend to hold back a bowel movement and tighten anal muscles or you can try the direct approach. Insert a well-lubricated (use vegetable oil) finger into the anus and squeeze. You will feel the anal muscles as well as the PC muscle. Women can gently place their index finger or middle finger in the vagina and squeeze. The vagina will grasp the finger, perhaps quite firmly. It may even push them out. The PC muscle itself can be felt in the vagina as a ribbed muscle about one and a half inches in.

How do you strengthen your PC muscle?
Once you get the hang of it, you can do squeezes writing, reading, walking, sitting, working watching TV, listening to music and so on. You may find that a tightening of the muscles in the stomach and thighs happens no matter what you do at first. This is common. But after the first few days or weeks, when you have completely isolated the muscle, these extra contractions should be hardly noticeable.
Once you have definitely found the PC muscle, start with quick or short squeezes. Contract the muscle 30 times at about one a second or faster as one session. Do two sessions your first day. Gradually build up to 100 twice a day. When you can comfortably do 100 quickie contractions twice a day, add sustained or long movements.
Long squeezes are simple. Instead of holding the muscle contraction for a count of one, hold it for a count of three. Start with 30 of these per session, two sessions a day. Build up to 100 each session twice a day. Take your time. Avoid straining. The PC muscle is just like any other muscle. If you overdo it, it will become sore.
Make the contractions focused and concentrate on the physical sensations. You may find this easier if you close your eyes. Learn to relax between contractions. Relaxation is just as important to your control as the contraction itself. If a man learns how to relax the sexual muscles during intercourse, he can prolong the lovemaking as long as he wants. In other words, the man will control the sexual energy and he will be able to make love for hours without having ejaculatory orgasm.

Use the power of imagination
You can use precise mental images to guide the strengthening of your PC muscle. Mind, energy and body are intimately connected. So, use the power of your mind to strengthen the sexual muscles.
Women can imagine that their vagina is a tunnel made up of several muscular bands that can contract or expand at will. These circular bands of muscle are seen growing in size and strength with each contraction.
Men can imagine that the PC muscle is a steel cable running between their legs, which they can tighten or loosen at, will. The steel cable should be seen as growing thicker and stronger with each repetition.

Use positive affirmation
Don’t be surprised if the exercises stimulate erotic feelings while you are doing them. The contractions of the sexual muscles produce the growth of sexual energy. This is the reason for which these exercises have to be accompanied by other methods for sublimating the sexual energy. Otherwise, you will become irritated, nervous and irascible. A simple method is to use positive affirmation during each contraction. With a quick PC muscle squeeze say a short positive affirmation such as “Love” or “Beauty”. With a long PC muscle squeeze you can say a longer affirmation such as “Love is my religion”.

Benefits of the PC muscle exercises:

  • Make you get more in touch with your genitals and sexual feelings
  • Improve the blood flow to these areas (which can be quite healing in itself)
  • Make orgasm voluntary
  • Eliminate frigidity


Virtuoso status is achieved and maintained only by working out daily.

Sexercises, Part 1

flammes-jumelles-5As any other art, the erotic art has its apprentice hood as well. Therefore, the first and very important step in any training is to understand the principles it is based upon.


Surprise! Now we will learn together nothing more and nothing less than some famous SEXercises!

First of all, ladies, you will learn how to contract your muscles. It sounds easy, but we can assure you it is not so. Many women hear this for the first time. They are as astonished as if one told them to move the tip of their nose.

Any woman may become an expert in the art of the contractions, but as any other muscles, the vaginal muscles also need persevering training in order to become more toned and dynamic.

Where are these muscles we discuss about? Close your eyes and imagine that you are now inside your vagina. Courage, allow yourself to do this at least in your imagination.

Go deeper now. There they are. They are circular, apt to perform very powerful movements. These muscles can be the source of unsuspected pleasures for both you and your lover.

Once you’ve learned the concentration on these muscles, you will be able to control them better. Constant repetition will help you memorize the path through which a certain muscle is activated or only a part of it.

Now contract your anal muscles as strongly as possible. Then contract your vagina as if you wanted to prevent something from coming out of it. Now contract your urethra as if you cannot urinate.

Then contract all these muscles in the same time. Make sure that the muscles of the buttocks and of the abdomen are relaxed.

If you find it difficult to find the muscles to contract, this is a sign that you are not yet very familiar with those muscles.

However, you may analyze your inner structure.

In the following, you will learn the classical contractions that a long-term training is based upon. They are the already famous Kegel contractions.

Master them and you will definitely master the art of lovemaking. Contract the pelvic muscles and remain like this for 5 seconds. Then relax these muscles completely.

Inhale deeply and place your hand on your abdomen during the following contraction. Thus you make sure that the abdomen is relaxed.

You may even insert one finger inside your vagina in order to detect the contraction of your intimate muscles. Try to obtain long contractions, up to ten seconds.

Begin with 15 repetitions of this exercise and then increase the number gradually, until you reach one hundred repetitions per day. You may perform these exercises in the morning, before getting up, or anytime during the day, even in the car or at work, in front of your boss.

Since it is crucial for a woman to perform these exercises, you may begin with short and easy movements.

These short and easy contractions are definitely better than nothing, but if you do aspire to a greater achievement, perform the exercises as we described them. And since the master is made by (S)exercise…get to work!