Have you ever suffered because of jealousy? How many times have you been jealous so far? It is difficult to count these occasions, isn’t it? Are you disturbed, annoyed by this state, or maybe you feel comfortable in it? Are you concerned with it, or it makes you indifferent?
Are you upset when your lover controls permanently your every move, or when they call you at work every five minutes? Or when your lover traces each movement of your eyes, ready to “catch” you when your eyes meet someone else’s eyes?
What can we do? Is this a disease? Or is it merely a caprice between lovers? Regardless of the way jealousy appears, there are always two constants, the two hypostasis in which one is going to suffer, posing in victim, and the other appearing in the light of a merciless executioner, cause of suffering.
In the nightmare of the tensions issued from jealousy, how could we find again the harmony of the couple, discovering in ourselves the true and real LOVE?
JEALOUSY IS IN FACT OUR FEAR OF LOSING OUR LOVER
When jealousy appears, the tensions in a couple enhance. The first and most important thing to do at this point is to communicate with our lover. We should have the faith and the courage to tell things for what they are.
Maybe our lover does not realize what we are going through. And maybe we did not understand properly his or her real intentions. It is time to get closer to one another, confessing our feelings with great honesty.
However, this does not mean making a scene, blasting out critically or reproachfully, but merely share our concerns with our lover, in our mutual effort of deepening the love-relationship.
IF YOUR LOVER LOVES YOU, SHE WILL BE WITH YOU FOREVER
If your lover loves you, she will be with you forever, if not you really have got nothing to lose. The relationships in a couple are very complex. If you loved the other not only as your lover, but also as your sister, daughter or closest friend could you still be jealous with her?
FIND AGAIN THE MAGIC OF THE BEGINNING
If she has fallen for someone else, why shouldn’t you try to conquer her again so that she will fall again in love with you?
If you used to be the conquerer, now simply LOVE! Try to understand that love is the fundamental energy of Creation and that it cannot be limited in its manifestation.
Love is free to come up and blossom into any open heart and is free to pour over anybody. This flowing of love awakens as a result more love, and the numb hearts come back to life. Even it is difficult, if we meditate constantly on these things, our inner horizon will broaden and we will open our hearts to the pure and genuine LOVE.
This experience will enrich yourself and this inner richness will attract your lover even more. Love brings about more love. And so it should be. Begin by loving yourself. Accept yourself and make peace with yourself, getting to know yourself. This is how you will discover the source of your loves to be.