Bhakti And Shakti – Two Important Aspects for Tantric Lovers

 

 

Shakti is the essence of Bliss; it is the power of love. BHAKTI, or devotion, is the impetuous force of faith.”

Devi Purana

 

For the one who enters the path of self-discovery, there are two important things that are required. They are the basis for the journey he has started. First of these two things is bhakti, which means faith and devotion. This quality makes the impossible become possible.

On the spiritual path, faith makes doubt disappear, while devotion helps him come closer to the final aim. Keeping faith in divine ideals, the human being will be able to overcome any obstacle. Faith is not a substance, it is a profound feeling; generally people cannot say why they believe, they simply feel (or do not feel) that.

The erotic feeling stimulates faith. Eros, as a state, can create the conscience of a state without relation to time, a non-dual one. One of the Eastern affirmations asserts that “Time lives inside a troubled mind.”

Faith is an experience that is outside the limits of time, a stable one, that can transform physical love into super-sensorial union between the “god” and the “goddess”, the highest attributes of our being.

A true erotic experience exists somewhere outside time. The two lovers evoke their faith in the other, reaching the non-dual essence within them. Test your faith through self-analysis; open up your heart so that this faith can increase and last.

Be devoted to everything that you believe in and, especially, to the colossal power of your sexual energy, that can be awakened and elevated through sublimation. A couple united by their faith and devotion to each other can experiment their essential nature, as god and goddess.

The second extremely important thing on the spiritual path is Shakti, the Divine Energy of creation, which is the feminine manifestation principle, the one that penetrates and conquers all. The term has lots of meanings, but all of them refer to the energy of creation.

This energy is situated first of all in the genital area of the human being. It represents the power of transformation, an extraordinary , ascendant and liberating force that can lead to complete ecstasy.

It is also the power of the orgasm, the thrill of pleasure , and the sudden inner vision. Shakti exists on several levels of manifestation at the same time, from the physical to the subtle one.

When Shakti is evoked during sexual union, the couple can awake in their bodies a powerful creative energy. The recognition and adoration of Shakti opens up the path to real love.

There is a well-known tantric affirmation that says “The lover without Shakti is nothing but a corpse.” Shakti concentrates herself especially in woman and she is the one who gives her the power of giving life to another being.

But there’s a “tantric feminine side” in every man and it manifests especially as sexual energy. This natural (bisexual) quality, which every human being possesses, subsists from our origin till the complete, transcendent union, of both sexes.

Trying to suppress this natural androgynous in order to create a perfect “male” or a perfect “female” lead to serious psychological disturbance in the West.

The Taoist as well as the Tantric learning says that it is very important to recognize the reversed parts when practicing mystical sexual practices. This does not mean that the man has to become “effeminate” and the woman “aggressive”.

It talks about the freedom of thought, of allowing the erotic game be more spontaneous and blissful. Admire and adore equally the feminine and the masculine qualities. Try to understand the mystery of life through the subtle game of masculine and feminine principles.

Everything that exists in this infinite creation is nothing but a Natural Creative Force emanation. In this phenomenal world, the feminine principle, or Adi Shakti (the Original Shakti), is everywhere and this is why it has to be adored as such.

The man’s attitude towards a woman reflects directly his own attitude towards life. Thus the man will always pay attention to adoring the feminine principle in his lover, in any other woman, or in him.

The woman will also have to admit her goddess qualities and try to embody them as much as possible. When the man has the spontaneous vision of his lover as the embodiment of the Supreme Shakti, the Creation Goddess, the women will respond with BHAKTI, pure faith and devotion. Thus she will become his highest priestess and the initiator in the mysteries of love; then he reveals himself to her as the Master and Supreme Lover.

Jealousy Has Nothing To Do With Love, Part 1

Have you ever suffered because of jealousy? How many times have you been jealous so far? It is difficult to count these occasions, isn’t it? Are you disturbed, annoyed by this state, or maybe you feel comfortable in it? Are you concerned with it, or it makes you indifferent?

Are you upset when your lover controls permanently your every move, or when they call you at work every five minutes? Or when your lover traces each movement of your eyes, ready to “catch” you when your eyes meet someone else’s eyes?

What can we do? Is this a disease? Or is it merely a caprice between lovers? Regardless of the way jealousy appears, there are always two constants, the two hypostasis in which one is going to suffer, posing in victim, and the other appearing in the light of a merciless executioner, cause of suffering.

In the nightmare of the tensions issued from jealousy, how could we find again the harmony of the couple, discovering in ourselves the true and real LOVE?

JEALOUSY IS IN FACT OUR FEAR OF LOSING OUR LOVER
When jealousy appears, the tensions in a couple enhance. The first and most important thing to do at this point is to communicate with our lover. We should have the faith and the courage to tell things for what they are.

Maybe our lover does not realize what we are going through. And maybe we did not understand properly his or her real intentions. It is time to get closer to one another, confessing our feelings with great honesty.

However, this does not mean making a scene, blasting out critically or reproachfully, but merely share our concerns with our lover, in our mutual effort of deepening the love-relationship.

IF YOUR LOVER LOVES YOU, SHE WILL BE WITH YOU FOREVER
If your lover loves you, she will be with you forever, if not you really have got nothing to lose. The relationships in a couple are very complex. If you loved the other not only as your lover, but also as your sister, daughter or closest friend could you still be jealous with her?

FIND AGAIN THE MAGIC OF THE BEGINNING
If she has fallen for someone else, why shouldn’t you try to conquer her again so that she will fall again in love with you?

If you used to be the conquerer, now simply LOVE! Try to understand that love is the fundamental energy of Creation and that it cannot be limited in its manifestation.

Love is free to come up and blossom into any open heart and is free to pour over anybody. This flowing of love awakens as a result more love, and the numb hearts come back to life. Even it is difficult, if we meditate constantly on these things, our inner horizon will broaden and we will open our hearts to the pure and genuine LOVE.

This experience will enrich yourself and this inner richness will attract your lover even more. Love brings about more love. And so it should be. Begin by loving yourself. Accept yourself and make peace with yourself, getting to know yourself. This is how you will discover the source of your loves to be.

Mental Concentration During Lovemaking, Part 1

In 1970, Masters and Johnson made popular a new technique that they called “sexual focusing”. This technique simply consists in focusing one’s attention on the sensations that occurr during lovemaking, without letting one’s mind to loaf.

Applying this technique during foreplay or during massage exercises was the first step in curing sexual dysfunctions for both men and women.

Similar to the Concentration (Dharana) phase in Yoga, the sexual concentration is an absolutely necessary phase for reaching the perfect harmony in couple, by favouring the focusing of the very powerful energies that take place during lovemaking and guiding them to the high levels of the human being.

We don’t have to see the method of achieving a meditative attitude during lovemaking as an exercise, as an instrument or as a technique performed in order to obtain a purpose in the future – the sexual performance, the mystique experience or anything else.

It is better to see it only as a way to go deep inside of us, in the present moment, in what we are doing and in what we are experiencing, therefore a way to stop our thoughts.

There are more aspects of eros we can firmly focus our attention on, in order to eliminate any other thought, in this way driving ourselves close to the subtle plans of the mystique conscience. These aspects of the lovemaking can be active or passive.

Let’s take as an example, the touch: we can either concentrate our attention on given touches that represent the active aspect of touch, or on received touches that represent the passive aspect of touch. Also, the aspects of erotism can be general or specified, depending on how many sensations are perceived in the same time.

Yet, the most beautiful feeling is the feeling of merging with the lover and with the entire Universe. This phenomenon appears step by step through continuously refining of the transfiguring act.

HOW CAN WE STOP OUR THOUGHTS DURING THE LOVEMAKING?

The stopping of the thought has become a popular technique. In the arsenal of Western therapeutics, this technique has entered powerfully after the 70s, being used as an active and direct treatment in the fixed idea (monomania). It came in contrast with the psychoanalytic method which was slower, more indirect, though in a certain direction – more comprehensive.

The idea that a person can direct her perception and attention, performing in this way a certain control over his/her own cognitive functions, is applied in order to modify the sexual behaviour. It proves to be very useful especially when the sexual dysfunctions are generated by a disturbing mental pattern that occurs during the lovemaking.

As much as we start to focus ourselves on the sensorial, direct perceptions of the erotic act, it becomes obvious the idea that “these thoughts occur to me” and that “I am not these thoughts”. Therefore, we will let those thoughts pass over us and go out of our conscience without giving them any value or becoming attached to them.

As soon as we will become aware of the fact that the thoughts are external to our being and that just by feeding them and by accepting them we make them alive and sustain them, we will easily realize that it is easy to stop their activity.

An efficient way to begin is to ignore them and not pay any attention to them, by making efforts to concentrate over the sensations we feel while making love.

With the time passing, the stopping of these thoughts will occur spontaneously, while the person is paying attention only to the orgasmic and sensual experiences.

CONCENTRATION TECHNIQUES

1. In case that certain inhibitory thoughts or certain thoughts, which are disturbing the harmonious lovemaking occur, because of some psychic traumas in connection with the sexual activity, you must have in mind to concentrate yourselves over the most intense sensation (tactile, visual, tasting, smelling) you feel.

Let yourself be absorbed by this sensation, let yourself become one with it. As much as you melt in this sensation, experiencing it at maximum intensity, you realize that any disturbing thought will disappear, letting the place free for the pleasure and for the happiness.

Doing the same with the other sensations, you will realize that the intense experience will free hidden forces in your own human being. As soon as you achieve this experience, you will realize that the thoughts easily disappear and they will be kept ever under the control.

2. You are ready go to bed (after they have undressed and had a shower). She is lying down while you softly caress her back sensually.

You have to concentrate yourself only on the sensation you receives from touching her skin and the harmonious forms of her body. In the same time, the woman has to focus her attention on your caresses.

She mustn’t let her mind be disturbed by other thoughts. She shouldn’t think of anything else. In this way you won’t let your minds wander. By concentrating on your sensations you can be more aware and fully experience all the sensations.

 

PART 2

Conventional Couples Versus Spiritual Couples

We all have wished a perfect, sublime relationship with an opposite sex human being.
Some of us succeeded by the first time, others succeeded after many failed tries, and others are still looking for. But don’t worry about this, because “everybody has his own half” as an ancient proverb tells us. Sooner or later, you and your lover will become to enjoy the most sublime aspects of love, depending on how fast you will be aware of the REALITY.

It is essential to understand the typical mistakes usually done in a so named normal or conventional couple. From the beginning this kind of a relationship is supposed to be a failure.
Being aware of our mistakes we can build up a perfect affair according to our best ideals.

Here it is a comparative analysis of the two types of couple, the conventional one, and the spiritual one.

CONVENTIONAL COUPLE SPIRITUAL COUPLE
Closed process
The couple motivations aren’t clarified. For the most of the times, the couple is modelling having a standard pattern established by the others and not after the self-inner standards. It is preferred the security, the stability, the transformation is avoided. That is why the individual evolution is very slow. Everybody tries hard to be according the other one’s image of him (her); he (she) isn’t acting in a free way. He (she) doesn’t do what he (she) feels.
Opened process
It is clearly set up the spiritual purpose, the common objectives that constitute the foundation of the relationship. The mutual recognition of the other one’s freedom. The both lovers honestly and openly express what are they, what do they want and what are their targets. The transformations are accepted, there is no jealousy, and this is the reason for that the individual evolution is very fast.
Doubt
The closed process provokes a less of self-confidence and a less of confidence in the other. You are attached, you feel dependent. You need the other for putting you in value.
Trust
An opened process makes each of the lovers aware of their independence. You don’t try to change the other one, you accept him/her as he/she is. You help him/her by your own presence.
Competition
It appears the fight for powers (who gives orders?) and authority, conflicts of parts. The own interest comes first. The ego has the power.
Understanding
Each lover has the same “rank”, the same responsibilities. Each of them respects the other one’s “space” and his (her) desire to be together or alone. Change of parts: you are here to help the other one to advance.
Dependency
You have different point of view that you want to impose. You feel alone and unfulfilled. You are afraid of being abandoned.
Autonomy
Each of them is self-sufficient, not dependent on the other one. The love confers safety. Each lover is opened to the other’s desire of spiritual evolution. So, there is a good understanding of the “tools” used by everyone for spiritual development, (spiritual practice, spare time, travels, etc.). This drives to spontaneity and harmony.
Conditions
The dependency provokes conditional exchanges. The relations are lead by rules, contract, and compels. The base of the relationship is the idea of truck: you offer if you get something in return, the attitudes are premeditated. Manipulation.
Liberty
Autonomy provokes tolerance, detachment, and abandon. There is no longer the case of domination or possessiveness. They spontaneously explore together the joyful adventure of the aware evolution in two. Happiness, mutual confidence, harmony.
Boredom
The lovers create rules because they don’t enjoy any more spending the time together. They enter in a routine that destroys the creativity and the inventiveness. Each of them begins to think that the other one is his (her) cause of unhappiness and this is the reason for that she (he) must defend from the other one.
Creativity
Constantly, the lovers play the loving game. This generates good mood. Spontaneity, inspiration, amusement. Spontaneous change of parts and duties. There are invented new ways of love. You feel really good and happy together.
Insecurity
You have the feeling that something is missing, you do not exactly what is it, and you have feelings of fear, instability and culpability. You avoid the other one or you reproach him (her) a certain behaviour that upset you. You want to make a family hopping to find out a solution for the problem and to find more stability.
Security
The profound love makes the stability feeling to appear. It can appear the wish of having a family, not because the lovers are afraid of losing one another, but in order to fulfil their spiritual purpose. The spiritual merging of the two lovers induces a superior security feeling.
Sensation of couple failure
The impotence of changing the flow of events. Each lover begins to undervalue one another. It can appear resentments that can provoke even unbalance. Desperateness. You have the feeling that is nothing you can do. You see no way to bring back the harmony in the couple.
Perfect love
Feeling of abnegation and devotion. The mutual devotion awakes the divine essence in both lovers and the mutual abnegation generates the good mood of the lovers. You exist for love. The love becomes cosmic so that you feel that God is the One who loves you throughout your lover.
Separation
The only solution is the separation, the divorce. You experience the desperateness and the loneliness, that could yet be the opportunity of a transformation, of a possible discovering of the autonomy and freedom.
Unity
The relationship is the opportunity to achieve the spiritual wedding or in other words the spiritual union of the two lovers. The lovers discover the primary love – the love between two archetypes, the male archetype and the female one. This love leads the lovers to UNITY, divine grace and blessing. They fulfil the ideal of any couple which is the discovering of the UNITY or in other words of the SUPREME REALITY.

Asanas of Happiness, Part 1

 

Even when we do not suspect it, love is the supreme law of the universe: a mysterious law, that governs and orders everything, beginning with the lifeless atom, to the union of rational beings.

All our actions and thoughts originate in this love, and to it they are drawn, as towards a divine center of irresistible attraction…

Yoga is a path of knowledge, and in the same time, a path of love and loving. Therefore, the sages have transmitted to the humanity poses that are to be performed by a couple, so that the relationships we have are harmonious and spiritual.

The asanas presented in the following may be performed before lovemaking as well, because they create an ineffable state of harmony between the two lovers.

The perseverant practice of these asanas will help you and your lover evolve spiritually, and lift your souls to reach the Supreme Ultimate Freedom, together with the beloved. The heart of this yoga practice is of course – LOVE.

NAVASANA (THE POSE OF THE SHIP)
This asana helps you trust your lover and rely on your love.
Sit on the floor, facing each other, knees bent, and touching with your soles your lover’s soles. Hold your hands, or use a scarf if you do not reach your lover’s hands. Make sure there is enough space behind you, in case you lose your balance.

Keep your spine as straight as possible. Lift both your feet, keeping your knees slightly bent in the beginning. Lift each foot on turns, maintaining the contact with your lover’s feet. Once you straighten your feet, exhale deeply, keeping your chest up and the spine straight. Keep this pose for as long as possible.

Perceive the activation of Manipura chakra, enhanced will, self-confidence and trust in your lover.

VIRABHADRASANA (THE POSE OF THE HERO)
This asana helps you have a greater capacity to love spiritually. The perseverant practice of this asana will help you have great force/impact as a couple, as well as the energy to fulfill your goals, and overcome any obstacles together with your beloved.

HOW TO PERFORM THE ASANA

The left side
Face your lover; step forward with your right foot, so that your feet touch each other on the inner part of the shank. Lift your arms and bring the palms at the level of the chest. Press your hands on those of your lover.

Place your left foot backwards, as if taking a big step. The ankle and the floor should form a 45 degrees angle. Keep the soles on the ground and bend the right knee to form a 90-degree angle. Breathe calmly, in the same rhythm with your lover, keeping eye contact all the while you perform the asana. Come out of the asana smoothly.

FOCUS
Focus to perceive the energy flowing through the palms of your hands and the right foot. Perceive the activation of Anahata chakra and Muladhara chakra in its receptive aspect. Perceive enhanced vitality; trust in your lover, self-confidence, calm, and feeling of security.

The right side
Face your lover; step forward with your left foot, so that your feet touch each other on the inner part of the shank. Lift your arms and bring the palms at the level of the chest. Press your hands on those of your lover.

Place your right foot backwards, as if taking a big step. The ankle and the floor should form a 45 degrees angle. Keep the soles on the ground and bend the left knee to form a 90-degree angle. Breathe calmly, in the same rhythm with your lover, keeping eye contact all the while you perform the asana. Come out of the asana smoothly.

FOCUS
Focus to perceive the energy flowing through the palms of your hands and the left foot. Perceive the activation of Anahata chakra and Muladhara chakra in its emissive aspect. Perceive enhanced vitality; trust in your lover, self-confidence, calm, and feeling of security.

A Perspective on Venus’s Position in the Zodiac, 1

The study of Venus’s position into the Zodiac gives us very important information about the way a human being manifests her feelings and preferences, what she likes most, what she is attracted of, the type of eroticism she presents, who she express herself into a relationship and what she expect from it.

When speaking about a man’s natal chart, Venus’s position gives us also important information about the woman he prefers as a lover.

Let’s now proceed studying the twelve position of Venus into the Zodiac:

VENUS IN ARIES
The natives who have this astrological position tend to have many experiences in the sentimental and erotic field, falling in love unexpectedly and sometimes even at the first sight.

The person can seem very unstable and unfaithful but in fact she/he only wants to live the relationship to a high intensity and, as by the time passing the intensity usually diminishes, they prefer to fall in love again than to fight for an old relationship.

The persons who don’t have the courage to throw themselves in an adventure annoy them and they don’t like to elaborate plans.

They have a fiery and passionate disposition and a very direct way of expressing their feelings.

This position predisposes them to be heart-brokers and for enjoying love-fights. They also have the tendency to resume old love affaires.

Their lives are very adventurous and they don’t like the idea of marriage, or if they get married they do it unexpectedly.

They can be impressed if they meet a person more passionate than they are, and in this case they can surprise us by their unexpected faithfulness.

VENUS IN TAURUS
This position gives a very strong predisposition to enjoy life, to taste the carnal pleasures, and makes them very sensitive to the physical attraction and physical contact, to the smell, to the tone of the voice and generally to whatever detail might rise their hyper-sensuous senses.

Their feelings take time to grow and each time a person attracts them, their desire increase up to one point when they turn into a passion.

When their hearts are trapped in this net of the attraction, they generally go on till they fulfill their desires and if the physical relationship is not possible they can become very frustrated.

If they are satisfied they prove to be very good lovers, offering much pleasure and attention to the persons they are with, taking care of their lovers’ needs and fulfilling their desires.

When they are in a relationship they tend to attach themselves, they often become possessive and tend to ask for exclusivity but in their turn they tend to be faithful to their relationships.

PART 4   |   PART 5

Sweet Basil and Wild Basil

 

 

BASIL is a herb with mystical valences, highly in use during the Middle Age. Basil is said to have grown out of an unfulfilled love.

A young and beautiful girl has died, leaving behind her desperate lover, who would go to her grave every day, shedding many tears. After a while, a flower grew on the grave. The boy’s tears would wet the flower every day, until it blossomed and a nice perfume spread from it.

Its delicate and sensual perfume has made the basil a stimulant of sensuality. In Haiti, it is reputed for the association with Erzulie, the goddess of love.

The legend says that the wives who wish to “cure” their husband of infidelity should perform a ritual in which they powder the upper parts (their chest) of their body with basil.

The saying goes that the husbands will become faithful and loving. There are very few herbs so clearly associated with sex.

In the folk European tradition, basil is an important ingredient in the erotic rituals, and the Arab writers of the time mention it as a highly important aphrodisiac herb, as it enhances erotic passion, especially in the case of women. Its beneficial effects are not so easily perceptible in the case of men, but in about three months, they are said to be remarkable.

As a alimentary herb, basil is held in great esteem as well. Use fresh basil leaves as often as possible, but also dried leaves to spice your food. Tomatoes spices with chopped fresh basil leaves are known as “love-apples”, while if used in olive oil and in combination with parsley, pine buds and cheese you may taste the reputed tonic ‘pesto sauce’.

Another form in which you may use basil in order to benefit from its wonderful qualities is essential oil. You may add this essential oil in a regular massage oil, to make it an erotic massage oil. Sheikh Nefzawi, in his Perfumed Garden compares this delicate herb with a woman’s body, explaining that ‘both (herb and woman) have to be first stirred with the nails, to reach a high state of pleasure.

HERB’S DESCRIPTION: Common or Sweet Basil which is used in medicine and also for culinary purposes, especially in France, is a hairy, labiate plant, growing about 3 feet high.

The stem is obtusely quadrangular, the labiate flowers are white, in whorls in the axils of the leaves, the calyx with the upper lobe rounded and spreading.

The leaves, greyish-green beneath and dotted with dark oil cells, are opposite, 1 inch long and 1/3 inch broad, stalked and peculiarly smooth, soft and cool to the touch, and if slightly bruised exale a delightful scent of cloves.

USED PARTS: leaves, flowers, and seeds. It acts as a stimulant aphrodisiac.

RECIPES: Take sublingually powder made of blossomed ends of the dried herb, in quantities of 0.5-1.5 grams, every six hours, four times a day. Keep the powder under your tongue for 15-20 minutes, then swallow it with some water, and maybe honey. For its aphrodisiac effects, take 3-4 grams at one time, four hours before lovemaking.

WILD BASIL
PRUNELLA VULGARIS, fam LABIATAE=LAMIACEAE

HERB’S DESCRIPTION: Like most members of the mint family, Prunella has square stems and opposite leaves. A creeping perennial that forms low, dense mats of foliage. The stems may be erect or prostrate and range from two to fifteen inches high.

Stems are slightly hairy when young but become hairless with age. Leaves are one to four inches long and about 1/3 to 1/2 as wide as they are long. The pinkish to purple flowers are in short, dense spikes (one to two inches long) at the tops of the stems.

Wild basil, also known as self heal has reknowned aphrodisiac effects. Take sublingually powder made of blossomed ends and flowers of the dried herb, in quantities of 1-1.5 grams. Administer 4 to 6 times a day, for 5 months if you seek a long-time effect or take 3-4 grams at one time, four hours before lovemaking. Keep the powder under your tongue for 15-20 minutes, then swallow it with some water, and maybe honey.

Prepare the macerate made of wild basil adding 30-50 grams of herb into one liter of spring or mineral water. Drink 2-3 cups a day for the stimulation of the sexual function.