Men usually succeed in having a certain degree of control on their sexual excitement, once they have grown as lovers, and once their desire is to satisfy their beloved.
This capability is often translated in terms of distraction of the mind from the sexual excitement, instead of learning how to become more and more sensitive to this excitement.
A real control of ejaculation comes up only when a man has learned his own individual rhythm of excitement, and not when he ignores it.
Once you get to become aware of your ever-increasing pleasure, you will find it easier to walk on the path of sexual continence, or in other words of multiple orgasms.
In order to fully experience sexual pleasure, men have to relax and abandon themselves. But, if a man relaxes and abandons in a wrong moment, he may even ejaculate because of this.
WHAT YOU HAVE TO KNOW ABOUT EJACULATION
The discharge of the semen from the body takes place in two phases. The first one, the contracting phase (called sometimes the emission phase) the prostate is contracting and pushes the semen through the urethra. In the expulsion phase, the semen discharged in the urethra goes further on through the penis.
When you will be capable of having multiple orgasms, you will experiment those pleasant pelvic contractions without ejaculating. Although there are men who ejaculate several times during one act (especially adolescents) it has to be clear from now on that multiple orgasms (without ejaculation) do not refer to this kind of multiple ejaculations.
If a man is very excited, there may appear some drops of transparent liquid. The prostate and other glands, such as Cowper glands produce this translucent fluid eliminated usually before the discharge of the semen.
It is in fact an alkaline liquid needed for the lubrication of the urethra and for preparing the way for the semen. The Taoists named this liquid water and distinguish it from the milk, which represents the seed.
This fluid is perfectly natural, its presence indicates the orgasm of the “contractile” phase, and it may contain a number of spermatozoids. This is usually called “pre-ejaculation”.
WHAT HAPPENS TO THE SEMEN WHEN I DO NOT EJACULATE?
The semen is reabsorbed by the organism, in a manner somewhat similar to the process occurring in the case of a man who had a vasectomy.
Nonetheless, the effects of Taoist and Tantric techniques on the human organism are quite different from the effects of a vasectomy.
A vasectomy implies that the deferent tube is cut right above the testicles and consequently, the sperm can no longer pass through the tube.
The semen is finally re-absorbed inside the body, but quite a number of men complain because of a state of congestion in the testicles and pelvis.
Therefore, either if you had a vasectomy or you simply practice sexual continence, it is so important that you practice techniques to sublimate the sexual energy from the sexual area.
These techniques help your body to transform the semen into other substances, process known as transmutation. Then the resulted energy is sublimated to the upper chakras, releasing the tension from the pelvis.
The involuntary contractions of the orgasms in the contractile phase, without ejaculation, massage the prostate, keeping it healthy and decongested.
CAN THE FACT THAT I DO NOT EJACULATE HARM ME IN ANY WAY?
The Taoist and Tantric adepts have practiced the techniques for transmutation of the semen and sublimation of the sexual energy into other refined forms of energy for thousands of years without any side effects. Moreover, they noticed that their health and longevity have been substantially improved.
THE ORGASMIC MASCULINE POTENTIAL
Instead of the usual, ejaculatory orgasm, the “Big-Bang” type, the methods of transforming and sublimating the sexual energy endow you with the possibility of rising this energy even from the contractile phase (before ejaculation), allowing you to experiment many multiple orgasms, perceived with your entire body, not just your genital area.
If you feel that ejaculation is imminent, block it by squeezing it with your fingers. This will prolong your orgasm and preserve your energy.
If you succeeded in avoiding the ejaculation, you may direct your energy along the spine, up to the crown of the head, in order to conclude the lovemaking with your whole body radiating energy.
It is a fact that the Tantric masters used the energy resulted from sexual intercourse without ejaculation for a spiritual purpose, i.e. they sublimated this energy and used it to reach the state of divine ecstasy, even revelation of the Supreme Self, Atman.
Also, it is known the fact that the same Tantric masters used to maintain hard erections for hours, during sexual intercourse without ejaculation, even at old age.
WHERE DID THE ERECTION GO?
I DID NOT EJACULATE, BUT I LOST MY ERECTION. WHAT HAPPENED?
If the sperm was not discharged nor reabsorbed, then only one thing may happen. Sometimes, when practicing sexual continence, you may have a non-ejaculatory orgasm and still you may suddenly lose the erection.
In this case you may have experienced a so-called “retrograde ejaculation” (in case you did not simply lost erection). If this is the case, the semen is discharged into the urinary vesicle and it will be discharged from the body once you urinate.
However, since you lost your erection and your semen (even if through urination), you have not succeeded in practicing correctly the sexual continence.
It is important for you to know that the effects of retrograde ejaculation are just as damaging as those of a “regular” ejaculation.
However, there is a method to see for yourselves if what happened was a retrograde ejaculation: after lovemaking, take a bowl and urinate in it. If the urine is not clear, then you eliminated the semen through it.