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Mars Across The Zodiac, Part 1

PART 1
Mars’s position in a certain zodiacal sign can tell us important things about the manner in which a particular human being uses to act, the type of will (s)he manifests and what gives her/him a dynamic, active disposition.

In a man’s natal chart, Mars tells very much about his masculinity, especially from an erotic point of view, about the way he acts as a lover, the way he likes to make love, as well as the degree to which he can control his basic instincts and his sexual potential.

In a woman’s natal chart, Mars’s position shows the type of man who sexually attracts her as well as the degree to which she become aware of her inner masculine side (animus).

MARS IN ARIES

This position is very favorable to Martian energy, Aries representing Mars’s daily house. The human beings who presents this position have a great amount of energy, which they manifest with high intensity, being extremely dynamic and active, endowed with a strong will and efficiency, especially in realizing physical activities, manifesting preferences for sports like athletics, box, bodybuilding, motor races, car races, football, etc.

They have a lot of courage and they like to risk, to live at highest intensity, which can give the others the impression that they are tireless.

The men who present this position are very fiery, always in action, impulsive and sometimes tending to become aggressive if constrained not to manifest their energy. They like to get involved in love affairs, not so much for pleasure as for the sake of living intensely.

Generally they are very masculine, both as attitude and as physical structure, often having a strong and muscular body.

When first meeting someone they tend to act immediately in a non-allusive way, having the courage to overtly express their intentions. They are also very focused upon the present moment and live very intensely when making love.

Because of this extreme intensity, they can appear sometimes a little bit aggressive and less refined, subtlety and tenderness being not their familiar qualities. In spite of these flaws, they are sincere in their feelings.

They are highly appreciated about the women who prefer the athletic type of man, a man who can make love on a motor or in the elevator, without feeling uncomfortable.

They generally have a good control upon their erotic energy, the problem which may appear being, as well as in other fields of their lives, the excessive speed.

The women who have this astrological position are generally highly aware about their masculine side, having sometimes the tendency to behave like men in their attitude, speech and clothing.

They like challenges, having powerful reactions and they appreciate men endowed with a strong and well-shaped body, with a very masculine attitude.

They have the tendency to be domineering up to the moment when they meet a man stronger than them, when they give up to their behavior and become very devoted lovers.


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Mars Across the Zodiac, Part 2

 

 

 

PART 2
MARS IN TAURUS
This planetary position is not beneficial for the Martian energy, the immobile Earth of the Taurus decreasing the Fire, which is Mars’s specific element.

The persons who have this position are endowed with a strong vitality, but they lack dynamism and sublimatory power. They are difficult to put to action, their fermity is weakened and their actions are rather motivated by the satisfaction of the basic instincts and of pragmatic aims.

The men who have Mars in Taurus have a good vitality and physical resistance, preferring to make love for long, being very attached to their lover’s body.

It can be pleasant to make love with this type of man, but a relationship with them is often constrictive, especially for the women who have subtler and more spiritual aspirations.

This position predisposes, both women and men to great possesivity and attachment, transforming after a while these persons in something stifling for their lovers.

Mars in Taurus makes them have a rather passive attitude at the beginning of the relationship, waiting to be wooed for long before acting. But you mustn’t forget the fact that, once decided, they have a lot of vitality and their actions will be constant and persistent.

When someone succeeds in making them give up their inertness, they are capable of great efforts so as to be with their beloved. If you know you are not serious in your intentions, you would rather not provoke them, because it is hard to stop them afterwards.

Their actions are also highly motivated by pleasure and by material security. They have a strong instinct of self-preservation and is hard (almost impossible) to convince them to do dangerous and original actions.

They prefer a more traditional conduct and they tend to choose a person to whom to be loyal and from whom they expect the same attitudes. They like to work in the middle of the nature and they can be keen on tourism, gardening, having ranches or activating in natural sciences (botany, zoology, anatomy, etc.).

This position also predisposes to actions motivated by excessive material possessions (houses, lands, expensive clothes, jewelries or other expensive objects). The main qualities of this position are stability, resistance and persistence in actions.

The women with this position are highly attached of the physical presence of their lovers and of the tangible manifestations of their feelings. Their lovers must act in order to show their feelings and bring them material proves of their love.

This type of women are less aware of their inner masculine side, which makes them so dependent of the physical presence of a man, and they have to pay attention to cultivate their masculine qualities, especially independence and detachment, unless they want to become stifling, passing from fidelity (which is a great quality of this position) to possesivity.

They need to realize that they have in a potential form all qualities for which they are longing so much when a man attracts them.

 


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Simple Ways of Beginning a Relationship According to the Zodiac, 2

Let’s continue our study about how to begin a relationship with a person from a certain zodiacal sign. Here are two more signs, quite different from the previous.

Don’t you forget that these are only general tendencies. Do not apply them blindly! Sometime an obvious thing doesn’t work because people are different. So…

GEMINI
You can begin a relationship with a native of this sign in a very simple and natural way: communicating. Talk with him about no matter what subject, which proved to be interesting for him in that moment (but be attentive, Gemini means ‘eternal change’; don’t bore him, is lethal!)

Generally speaking he likes to talk about books or other way of communication, about every interesting subject you can imagine.

In order to impress this native you have to prove a certain all-round education and to display it in an interesting and captivating way. You have to bring new ideas, to be in a continuous movement (mentally speaking) and incite his curiosity.

He appreciates if you really are a specialist in a certain field (because he knows all sort of things from various fields, but few perfectly).

You don’t have to be stupid, boring, slow-witted, conventionalist, rigid, extremely serious or severe.

You can invite him to a book exhibition, to a bookstore, a technical stand or simply give him your e-mail address (by the way don’t forget to send him from time to time a short and interesting message).

You would rather not say to him your problems (especially if they imply physical effort don’t count on him…).

When you have a meeting or a date with him, be prepared, almost for sure he will be late. But he is charming, you can not be angry on him. He’s like a butterfly!

CANCER
You should approach him in a very romantic way. Prepare an intimate dinner, with candle lights and a discrete, slow music.

You can also go out for a walk on a board of a river and, if possible, crossing a bridge or rowing to a boat under the moonlight.

You can write a poem especially for him, you can go with him in a park full of children or you can take him to a museum or to some romantic ruins.

You should pay attention to what he is telling to you and to the way prepared for your meeting (sometimes he can be so delicate that his efforts can pass unnoticed).

He feels very good if you ask for his advice. Let him know he has a unique place in your heart and in your life and that you want to share everything with him (but pay attention that this must be really true, because he is very empathetic and if he feels you are lying to him, he withdraws into himself and you can not approach him anymore).

He is so sensible that one single hurt can be forever.

If you are very independent, if you don’t care about your house and kids seem annoying to you, you would better chose another zodiacal sign, because Cancer is very fond about these.

Be sure that you pay enough time to him and that you don’t criticize his actions or defame his family.

Don’t remove the objects in his house from their places and don’t throw his ‘ old things ‘ that make him remember same past emotional events and above all don’t mock at his (deep) feelings!

Simple Ways of Beginning a Relationship According to the Zodiac, 3

Now we will continue the study of the twelve zodiacal signs and their specific modes of being. Here there are the main trends of the following two signs and the ways of beginning a relationship with people from these signs. And again don’t you forget they are only tendencies not established laws.

LEO
In order to draw the attention of a person born in this zodiacal sign, you should really admire him, be impressed by his personality and make sure you express your admiration in a very dignified way, meaning by that he can be impressed by an ode but not by a romantic poem which may seem to him a sort of denigration. You should treat him as a king both in his rights and in his value.

If you are mean, stingy or extremely extravagant you would rather not try to approach him.
Don’t expect from him to be very accessible, but if you try to approach him many times and he don’t even bother to answer you, you should rather let him alone, because he is not the type of person who appreciates your insistence and you risk to definitively estrange him from you.

It is a matter of prestige for him to be appreciated by persons whom he appreciate and proved to be independent and vertical.
You can’t ‘force’ him to appreciate you. If he does, you are very lucky because he will protect you, if not you rather retire in time, in a dignified way.

Let him hold the field and feel to have the main part in entourage, praise him and thank him many times he helps you, let him feel important and unique in your life and give him presents. But pay attention: prove him your generosity not your amount of money. The way you give him the present is very important: he should feel you give it with a great affection and admiration.

You would rather refrain from criticizing him, especially when he is in the middle of his admirers. Don’t try to monopolize the discussion and be friendly with his protegees.

You can invite him to a play or to the opera or in another place where he can manifest in his full splendor.
Pay attention not to hurt him in his dignity, listen to him when he says anything about his life. When talking to him you should prove a certain education, but pay attention not to be too emphatic or too proud of you.

You should prove you have confidence in yourself but not to such an extent that he became unimportant.
And by the way: don’t you ever take his place in any situation!

VIRGO
First of all you should prove to be a very discrete person, but at the same time intelligent; you should respect his intimacy, meaning by that not to try to approach her too easy and let her establish the distance from which you will interact.

If you try to become suddenly intimate with her, she could have the feeling of a violation of her privacy and a lack of decency of your part.

Be sure that you don’t force her to comment upon her feelings and emotions and keep the discussion to mental subjects.

Make sure also you don’t spoil her plans when making her a surprise because she doesn’t like being take by surprise.
She wants to know exactly the plan and to evaluate it. She is not the type who ‘throws herself’ into unknown and you must be very attentive if you are a more adventurous person.

She appreciates the order, the cleanness and can’t stand the other to use her things.
She is rather cool and mental and shows very rarely her feelings and then in a very reserved way, which doesn’t mean she is indifferent to your demands.

If you are a very romantic person, or you like surprises and want to live your life in a very intense rhythm, almost illogical, you are not her ideal of companion unless you want someone to bring you ‘on earth’ and strictly analyze your every detail through a looking glass.

You can invite her to a conference, to a book exhibition, you can ask for his opinion about a scientific theory or a literary work or to help you in some business affair.

You can count on her when evaluating a situation objectively or realizing a statistic study.
If you want to invite her to a dinner, be sure you choose a very clean restaurant with mannered stuff, but not extremely expensive because she is very fond of economy.

In the case above be also sure that the food are healthy and light because she has a bad digestion and an acute sense of diet.
With a native from this sign you must be attentive, reserved, objective and you must keep always your word, because Virgo is the clock of the Zodiac.

Love – The Magic Of Simplicity

We live our lives in a permanent rush. We keep inside “synthesis” of experiences that we had. We keep past loves, victories as well as defeats. But when we think of love everything is seen in a totally different light, more alive, special, and mysterious.

It is possible that we do not remember what we did three years ago or on January 7. But if it is the day when you saw him for the first time or the day that he told you he wanted you to be together, it is all coming back to you and you keep on smiling about some details that that day seemed to be amazing.

If you experienced a profound love story there is no doubt that you were beautiful and strong, that you thought that you had something special decided for you by your fate. After a while, after your love passed over your field of lust and you put aside whatever was needed to be put aside, you found yourself stronger, though apparently without something or somebody to lean on. And your love became more intense, more conscious, and even larger.

Love is constructive and creative; she unites and lifts you up. It’s a regenerating principle, a substance that turns everyone who’s blaze and lonely. Masterpieces, poems, inspiring music, they all have in their composition something – love. And so do we.

Love is real, as real as we are. It’s not a sterile concept but a magic of all our being. The moment that not even a blade is an accident, if someone loves you, you should take that into consideration. Because we exist for proving that there is love on Earth.

It’s the easiest thing to be transformed because of love. It is the only standard that everything else should be measured by. Shared love is the meaning of our existence, in infinity of shapes and shades.



Loving is the easiest thing to do because it is the most natural. You almost do not have to do anything else. Everyone needs to love even before he loves somebody or something. Sooner or later you will find someone to respond to your feeling.

Love makes people search for their soul mate; to make all their dreams come true. It makes you want to know yourself. If you feel that you do not love any more that is because you never did or that you stopped looking inside yourself, where there is still love. Love knows that what is inside your mind can be changed or forgotten, so lost. When love is the one that always makes you triumphant.

Love simply is. We are the ones who feel it through the person that we love, through the moments of happiness. It doesn’t need all those. Love does not rule and does not to be ruled. Love doesn’t ask, it gives. It’s a divine simplicity.



Love is the reflection of divine love on Earth. That is why it hasn’t boundaries or limits. If there is love, it is everywhere. And if there is love, it is forever.
Let’s meditate together on the profound love as Kahlil Gibran revealed it in his famous writing “Prophet”:


“When love beckons to you follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you yield to him,
Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you.
And when he speaks to you believe in him,
Though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste the garden.
For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you. Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun,
So shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.
Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself.
He threshes you to make you naked.
He sifts you to free you from your husks.
He grinds you to whiteness.
He kneads you until you are pliant;
And then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread for God’s sacred feast.
All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life’s heart.
But if in your fear you would seek only love’s peace and love’s pleasure,
Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love’s threshing-floor,
Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.
Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.

Love possesses not nor would it be possessed;
For love is sufficient unto love.
When you love you should not say, “God is in my heart,” but rather, I am in the heart of God.”
And think not you can direct the course of love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
Love has no other desire but to fulfil itself.
But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;
To rest at the noon hour and meditate love’s ecstasy;
To return home at eventide with gratitude;
And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips”

Artwork courtesy of and copyright by Daniel B. Holeman at Awaken Visions Galleries.

A Perspective on Venus’s Position in the Zodiac, 5

VENUS IN CAPRICORN
It is not very favorable to the sentimental and erotic life. The persons who have this position tend to take their friendship very seriously, being responsible, mature and reticent in beginning a more intimate relationship.

They control their feelings up to the point of completely inverting them.
They are very sober with the others in general and with the representative of the other sex in particular.

They don’t show their feelings and they need much time to let someone approach them.

It is very hard for them to fall in love, but when they do it can be for the whole life. They are predisposed to solitude and they prefer to suffer in silence than manifesting their love if the other person don’t pay them the expected attention.

Sometimes they can marry from a certain interest, from a convenience or even from their strong sense of duty.

They are generally preoccupied by their social and professional position to which they pay much time and they expect from their lovers to have a similar position.

They are not fond of the domestic life and they generally don’t like children.

Although they seem very distant, when they really like someone they are very devoted and can do many sacrifices to continue a relationship.

VENUS IN AQUARIUS
It gives the natives an airy (or ethereal) sensibility, with a light, gracious, sublimated nuance. Their emotions are very much elevated and they live in a state of serenity, very distant of the earth.

They understand love in a very idealized way and their eroticism is rather a way of living a spiritual communion.

Sometimes the accent is put on a very free and non-conformist way of manifesting themselves, ignoring the social constraints.

They are not interested in marriage as a social, rigid habit, because they think that what really matters is the soul and spiritual communion.

Their relationships are not based on the physical interaction but, when it is the case, they don’t have any prejudgments in making love and they are very open-minded in their erotic expectations.

They don’t like the possessive and jealous persons because for them liberty is the most important criteria in a couple and if they feel constraint they leave from relationship.

They are good friends, being interesting and often original companions.

VENUS IN PISCES

Gives the native very much tenderness, sensibility, compassion, kindness.

Their love is often based on a mystical view upon the world and they are characterized by a dominant power of transfiguration and devotion.

They can seem incoherent in their feelings and manifestations because they act in accordance with some invisible realities, which they perceive by their intuitive structure.

Sometimes, this position can give the tendency to have uncertain and mysterious relationships, with an indefinite status, which is in a perpetual changing and enable the individual to live in a complete liberty of manifestation.

They like privacy very much, and they feel the fact of making love as a total way of abandoning themselves, of merging into the person they love.

They can’t stand any form of constraint and if they are imposed to do something, they just slip between your fingers.

When they feel inspired, they are very loving beings, being able to sacrifice themselves for their beloved ones.

They have also a very charitable soul and they live for the others, sharing their happiness and trying to soothe their sorrows.

With this position the zodiacal tour for the planet of love and pleasure, Venus, is finished.
We can add more only an important aspect, referring to the so called ‘three steps of love’.

It is a tradition in astrology that they are three main positions of Venus in the zodiac:
– Venus in Taurus, which signifies the carnal, physical love
– Venus in Libra, which signifies the human love, the warmth of the human relationship, from soul to soul
– Venus in Pisces, which signifies the spiritualized, pure love

It is said that these three steps must be learned by every human being for becoming complete.

Knowing all the three aspects of love we can become universal and, of course our relationship will then be a model of harmony and beauty!


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Simple Ways of Beginning a Relationship According to the Zodiac, 6

We are now at the end of the Zodiac. The last four signs are the most serious and philosophical. We need attention to understand and approach these signs. Let’s proceed:

SAGITTARIUS
The native from this zodiacal sign is generally a very friendly and jovial person and from this point of view it is very easy to begin a friendship with him, unless you are a pessimistic person or too reticent in your relationships with the others.

He is not the person to annoy you if you don’t show him openly you want to communicate with him, because for him the principle of individual liberty is very important and he will not interfere with you against your will.

But pay attention not to do the mistake of misinterpret his general open-disposition and open-mindedness with a special affectivity pointed to your person, because the Sagittarius has the tendency to treat the others, even when first meeting them, as if they were friends for years, being very warm and kind.

This doesn’t mean that he loves you, but only that he generally loves people and what life offers to him. He likes very much travelling, meeting new people, seeing new places, new countries.

If you are a person very attached to your house and to your intimity, he is not the person you need, because his ideal is one of perpetual moving and changing of the surroundings, and, due to his adaptability, he will feel at ease everywhere and with almost everybody.

When approaching a Sagittarius it is very important to be prepared for all kind of surprises, because he doesn’t like the persons who are rigid in their expectations in a relationship. Your life with a Sagittarius can seem an expedition and you have to be always prepared to assume the risk of a new adventure.

He likes animals very much and he wouldn’t be delighted to find out that you hate his pets and that you don’t care about the ecological issues.
He also likes philosophy and he doesn’t appreciate the persons who don’t have an ideal in their lives.

For him, the idea of liberty is very important and he can’t stand being controlled. You would rather not try to impose him a program or ask him to swear about doing something, unless you want to make him get away in a great hurry.

He has his principles, which guide his life, and if you interfere with them he will disappear, and is not specific to him to come back.

If you want to please him, you can invite him to a journey or simply to a walk in the middle of the nature. You can also bring him to your country house even if it is a very unsophisticated one, or if you don’t have one, you can invite him to a horse racing!

In spite of his superficial disposition, he can prove to be very faithful if you gain his respect by letting him free and trusting him, because he is in fact an honest person.

If you want to attract this native, you should be sincere, optimistic, dynamic, communicative, to have a good sense of humor and to fully enjoy life.

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Simple Ways of Beginning a Relationship According to the Zodiac, 7

CAPRICORN
First of all, before decide to approach a Capricorn, think seriously if you really want to get involved in a relationship with him, because he doesn’t like jokes and is not the kind of person to play with his life. And one more thing: he is very patient, but you would rather not try to see the limits of his patience.

You have to prove loyal to him for a longer time in order to be taken seriously, and if he is not yet in love with you, you must be very cautious with your feelings, because he is very distant and you may be hurt.

If you want to approach him, you would rather pay him services, because for him this is a prove of your affection. He is very pretentious and asks very much from a relationship, but he will also reward you with his fidelity.

You should also be attentive to what you say to him, because he will take you very seriously and if he wants to meet you and you agree, pay attention not to be late, because he will consider this a serious act of disrespect.

If you promise him something, you must keep your promise or else he will not trust you anymore.
It takes time to him to fall in love with somebody, but if he does, he may do it for the whole life.

If he promises to be with you, even if he suffers, he will stay with you, because he has a very strong sense of duty. But if you disappoint him, he suddenly turns into a very distant person and it is very hard (if not almost impossible) to make him open his heart again.

He is extremely devoted to a relationship, but if you want to separate from him, you must only ask him seriously to leave and you will never see him again.

He is the kind of person who can even change the city, the country if necessary, in order to respect his promise of not seeing you again. So, if you are not sure you want him to leave, don’t ask him this even in a joke, because you may risk to be taken seriously.

He is also interested in the social status of the person whom he is involved and he appreciates the persons who manifest a great deal of ambition and are endowed with a strong will and self determination.

If you don’t have a high social position, you must at least prove to be hard working in order to draw his attention. When meeting a Capricorn pay attention not to appear dressed in a parrot-like fashion, but rather in an elegant, classic style, and during your meeting don’t be exaggerate in anything: don’t talk neither too much, nor too little, don’t eat without measure, etc.

For him, any exaggeration is a form of lack of self-control, which he detests. And also, don’t be surprised if he wants to see your family tree, not because he would be very interested in the family life (which he is not, by the way), but because he wants to assure himself that he will be surrounded in your family by decent and honorable people.

The Capricorn is the type of person who prefer you not to have relatives than to find out that you have a bar dancer, for instance, in your family.

But if you want a person who is extremely correct, who assumes all possible duties, who keeps his promises up to his death, here is your man!

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Simple Ways of Beginning a Relationship According to the Zodiac, 8

AQUARIUS
The Aquarius is attracted by the persons who are spontaneous, original in what they are doing and saying, cultivated, open-minded, friendly, with a constant preoccupation for the humanitary issues, flexible in their opinions, idealistic.

If you want to approach a native from this zodiacal sign, you should be a communicative person, unselfish and concerned about the problems of the other people around you.

He generally likes people and is surrounded by many friends to whom he pays attention to such an extent that he can neglect his family, because in his vision upon life the priority is given to the persons who are in trouble, no matter if they are or not his relatives.

For him, the entire humanity is like a large family and the human beings are equally important when he can help them. In his idealistic vision upon life is originated his general lack of interest for his belongings as well as the fact that he tends to consider his house and other properties as a place open to everybody.

The reverse is that he tends to conduct the same way when being on the property of the others, because in his vision there is no property that can’t be shared with the friends.

We can say that he is a living image of the idea of democracy: all humans have equal rights and liberties and they are free to express their liberty as far as they don’t hurt the others.

If you know yourself as being a selfish, pragmatic person, if you need very much privacy or you can’t stand the fact that someone uses your things, if you want a person who should pay you all his attentions, this native is very far of your expectations.

If you approach a native from this sign, you should be prepared not to sleep, or eat, or drink if one of your friends is in trouble, to take part in marches for peace or for ecological rights, or spend your days meeting all sorts of people with the most unusual preoccupations.

The Aquarius has a very special art of being wherever might happen something unusual, this proving sometimes a great quality but sometimes you have to be a really flexible person to resist his rhythm, because he will always find something unusual to present you.

One of the most important things, which you shouldn’t do when being with an Aquarius, is to restrain his liberty, because he can’t stand being enchained. He also can’t stand the rigid and narrow-minded people, those who don’t have the courage to risk, to live the adventure.

He appreciates the people with whom he can talk about various topics, especially those which are related to new fields of activity and he likes being in tune with every thing which happens in the modern life.

You shouldn’t be surprised if you see him at your first meeting wearing extravagant clothes and you should be prepared to be brought in an original place.

Don’t be afraid about his incoherence, which might appear a little crazy, jumping from one topic to another, being romantic, than in a few minutes telling you the latest news in politics or the most advanced technologies of nowadays society, finishing by taking off his shoes to better feel the grass, etc.

If you are a conservative person he may seem you raving mad, but in fact he is only original in his expectations, wanting to experience all aspects life offers him, being always open to new possibilities, which may improve his knowledge.

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Simple Ways of Beginning a Relationship According to the Zodiac, 9

 

 

PISCES
The natives of this sign are generally as fluid as the water, which is their element. It is hard to say that you have really caught them, because they are as slippery as an eel, and when you think you have understood them, they aren’t anymore as you know them.

They are very sensitive and live in a world of emotions and intuitions, which are very hard to understand if you are not endowed, as they are, with the sixth sense. Sometimes they live in a reality that seems not to have anything in common with the reality as you know it.

They are fascinated by the mystery of the invisible world and they will be very delighted if they meet someone who can really understand them, because they are generally not taken seriously when they speak about the world as seen through their hyper-sensitive eyes.

They generally avoid speaking about their emotions because there are many people who mock at them, and thus, they can seem shy, but if you prove yourself to be really interested in their feelings, they can become even communicative.

 

They also like very much water, so you can invite them to the seaside, or on a cruise or at least to the swimming pool (although they prefer the romanticism of the natural scenery).

They will be delighted to share with you their dreams and fantasies and to hear yours, you can write them love poetry or listen with them romantic music. They generally like art, especially music and you can invite them to dance in a slow, sensual rhythm.

You should also pay attention to the tone of your voice, which is better to be slower and to your appearance, because they generally don’t like the loud colors (except for those of blue and greenish-blue). They are also very sensitive to the environment, which must be relaxing, romantic and filled with magic.

When you meet them you would rather refrain from discussing your affairs or from solving some pragmatic problems that are too down on the earth. They prefer dreaming and living in their invisible world and for them love is one of the most important ways of evading from reality.

They are very idealistic and they don’t like to know the concrete data of the existence.
They are generally accused of infidelity because for them the real fidelity is a soul condition, which doesn’t have anything to do with the fact that they can meet many other people.

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They can be surprising by their power of sacrifice, although they may seem rather superficial.
They have a great power of empathy and a lot of compassion, and they can’t stand the insensible, indifferent and cold people.

Their ideal is to ever help the old, the poor, the ill, the suffering people and their house can often become a charity place.

Those who are selfish, stingy, extremely logical and pragmatical, insensitive, materialistic, atheist, who lack kindness or compassion have much to learn from these natives before being good enough to approach the Pisces.

But those who really want to learn these values can approach them, because they have a great power to forgive and won’t abandon a person if they see he has good intentions and is sincere in his quest.

 

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Making Love Without Intercourse

Kissing, cuddling and touching are an important part of lovemaking and couples that run their lives in this way use every opportunity to share such affection.

The slightest touch or pat can be worth a thousand words and a hug at just the right time makes words redundant. Sometimes these little intimacies simply say, “I love you”, yet on other occasions it is clear they are preludes to some sort of sexual activity. The couple in tune with each other know without saying, which is which, and use such teasing, even perhaps to some level of arousal, as a sort of work-up to intercourse later.

EXTENDED FOREPLAY
This kind of “lovemaking” then becomes like an extended foreplay both know will end in lovemaking some time in the near future.

If you run your intimate life in this way, lovemaking takes on a rather different level of importance. It is now no longer the be-all and end-all of the intimacies you share. This means that you will cope better with the ups and downs of your sexual appetites and, mutually attuned, detect sexual interest early and know how to act on it. Then, when you do have intercourse it is much more meaningful because it takes place against a background of loving interest in one another.
Not only are inequalities and variations in sexual appetite better coped with, but the occasional failure, rather than becoming a disaster, is kept in perspective because it is understood that the relationship has far more going for it than whether or not genital contact is always good.

SECRETS
Lovers of longstanding sometimes find they communicate without words; they seem to know what the other is thinking and feeling. Shared secrets help to make this a secret society. The woman may whisper to her man while they are on the dance floor, that she’s wearing his favourite underwear, for example. “Accidentally” touching your lover’s body in a certain place or in a particular way can have a devastating effect. Some couples can achieve the same impact with just a look.
Many couples have a private language, that they use even in front of others, as they tell one another about their feelings, arousal, or their anticipation of erotic things to come, which all add to the excitement.

All of this makes such a couple much less likely to suffer from jealousies because they flirt with each other and look to one another to answer their needs. They do not then see members of the opposite sex as threatening because they know that what they have between them is vastly more valuable than anything a quickie relationship could offer.

If all of this seems nothing more than a fantasy to you, there are ways of improving things: Start of by going back to courtship behaviour; many couples have never really courted – taking every opportunity to show love in different ways. Give one another presents for no reason. They don’t have to be expensive; it’s the thought that matters; kiss more; telephone to say, “I love you.” Leave love-notes around where they’ll be found by your lover; go out with one another as if it were your first date as teenagers. Really try to please one another as if you were just starting to date.
You may be surprised how much you’ve taken each other for granted over the years and how stale the caring and love for one another has become.

It is helpful in any loving relationship to remember to bear in mind the airline motto “we never forget you have a choice”. There are many couples that let things slip, perhaps year after year, becoming more and more lazy and thoughtless only to find when they go back to courtship they’ve all but forgotten how to deal with one another in this way. As with so many things in life practice makes perfect and over the weeks you’ll become more proficient at courting one another.
With luck and effort, the combination of making courtship a priority, and your increased experiences of life, will reap you a far richer harvest than would have been possible when you were first going out at the beginning of your relationship.

SENSUAL HOLIDAYS
One of the most fruitful ways of making all this happen is to organise sensual holidays. A sensual holiday can last from an evening to a weekend. The main purpose is to get away from your normal day-to-day routine both in and out of bed and to really court one another.
You can prepare for the holiday beforehand to get best out of it. Ideas include: the uses of herbal aphrodisiacs such as ginseng, yohimbe; breakfast in bed; one sensual massage; lovemaking in an unusual place; a novel type or position of lovemaking you know your lover would like; or an evening devoted to your lover’s every whim. Each couple will have their own ideas as to what suits them, or they’ve always wanted to do.

Send your tokens some days before the holiday so your lover has time to prepare (if necessary). This also helps build up excited anticipation for the holiday. Remember, none of this need be expensive – the whole thing can take place at home with perhaps a special dinner or outing just for the two of you.
Whatever you do and wherever you do it, the main thing is to give yourselves over to one another totally and to aim to do things that please and delight.
Talk about it afterwards to see what worked well and what didn’t. It’s best to take it in turns to arrange such holidays so each lover has the opportunity to call the shots and decide what they want.

MASSAGE
Sensual massage is a wonderful way of lovemaking without intercourse. This form of loving contact is often underestimated. There are few things a couple can experience together that allow them to be more in touch with themselves, and to communicate at every level than a loving, sensual massage. Whether or not this becomes an erotic massage is up to you, but even if one does lead to the other you still don’t have to end up having intercourse – you could stimulate each other or simply cuddle and kiss.

FULL BODY ALERT
Sight, sound, smell and taste are powerful aphrodisiacs – exploit them to the full.

Right from babyhood most of us use fewer of our senses than we might. In learning to please one another without intercourse it can be helpful to look at how each sense could be better used to serve lovemaking. Here are some ideas:

The power of aroma
Use perfume, perfumed soaps, scented oils for massage, burning joss sticks, flowers, room perfumes, and anything else (not all at once!) that helps enhance your sense of smell.
Remember, if you perfume yourself too heavily you’ll mask the natural odours that are such a turn-on for your lover.

Make sure you are clean and washed but not so squeaky clean your natural smells are obliterated. Learn, perhaps for the first time, how each part of your lover’s body smells.

Sound effects
The lover’s sound can be delicious as you make love. The little groans, sighs and moans that say “I love you” are all valuable cues to how things are going. With the lights off, learn to recognise how your lover’s sexual arousal cycle is progressing just by sound alone. Take a delight in the sounds of your bodies reacting with each other. Use beautiful music to accompany lovemaking.

Seeing it all
Take a delight in looking at tour lover going about their daily tasks. Really notice what it is you love about him or her. Compliment each other’s appearance and show appreciation for things that please you.

Acquiring the taste
Get to know how your lover tastes by licking all over. Taste mouths, faces, sweat, genital secretions and so on. This is intimately tied up with the smelling exercise since taste and smell are so closely interlinked.

Tactile development
Experiment with all kinds of tactile sensations using not only your bodies, but also foods, clothing, vibrators and so on.


GOOD LUCK !

The Art of Making Divine Love Divinely without Intercourse

Unfortunately most people when thinking about “making love” envisage one thing only – intimate, genital contact. In case of a harmonious couple, when the two know and love each other, “making love” is not strictly limited to the physical, immediate act. On the contrary, “making love” becomes a common state of mind and spirit, state that they may share even for more than one day or two. Such a couple reaches the point in which they are able to communicate rapidly and so profoundly that they may even give birth to ecstatic passion by means of a glance.
Kissing, passionate embracing and caressing are very important for a complete erotic fusion. Loving and caring couples who act this way in their intimate lives use every single opportunity to express thus their affection and adoration.
An affectionate touch or a tender caress is often much more important than thousands of words; we all had the practical experience of a passionate embrace at the right time which made words futile. All these amplify the mutual appreciation and, not at all surprisingly, the erotic aspect of their lives gains in importance and enthusiasm. Sometimes these intimate, apparently insignificant things can express a simple “I love you” or, other times, they are obviously and plainly prelude to an erotic act. Such a couple communicates even without words because the two lovers reach the point in which they are able to recognize precisely the meaning of each manifestation of the other, and are also able to use these manifestations spontaneously, as means of preparing for the awaited lovemaking.

LONG LASTING PRELUDE
This delicious way of initiating/engaging an erotic fusion becomes a longer and more profound anticipation of the act that will take place at a certain time in the near future.
Now you have the opportunity to see the difference for yourselves – and your partners as well, because this approach to sexuality will certainly generate beneficial changes in your lives, and these changes will not go on unrecognized. On the other hand, this approach endows you with the means of handling more practically and intelligently the ups and downs of sexual appetite and desire. You will also note that owing to the harmony established between the two partners, the erotic interest appears a lot sooner, together with the ability to act suitably. Thus, when the actual fusion occurs, the sexual intercourse will be more profound and successful because it will take place on the basis of a complete awakening of the partners’ erotic interest to each other.
Thus you may deal a lot easier with the variations in your sexual appetite, even with a potential failure viewed form a different perspective grounded on the opinion that the erotic relationship between two lovers may be sensual even if not physically sexual. It is interesting to note that the couple gets free of the tensions and stress due to the obsession with sex. Consequently, the partners experience an increase as regards erotic pleasure and even make love a longer period of time and more intensely.

SECRETS
In a steady and long-term relationship lovers can reach a non-verbal level of communication and sense the feelings and thoughts of their partner.
Revealing a secret to your partner will preserve and moreover, it will intensify the mystery and communion between you two.
For instance, the woman whispers into her lover’s ear, while dancing together, that she is wearing his favorite piece of lingerie. Touching “by accident” certain parts of his body can have an extraordinary effect. Some couples have such magic impression on each other through a look, plain and simple.
Another secret revealed here is connected to the use of a mysterious language of lovers, characteristic to each couple, in which they communicate even in public. Thus they have the possibility to share with each other their exact feelings, their erotic moods and expectations, feeling consequently a lot better and intimate.

JEALOUSY
These are the reasons why such couples are less predisposed to jealousy-sufferings. They flirt almost all the time, trying to respond the other’s mysterious love-calls.
They no longer consider others persons as a possible threat because they know at this point that all that they have together is worth a lot more than any superficial relationship.
If all these sound like a dream to you or appear too difficult to be acquired, you are given here some simple solutions that will empower you to improve your situation.
Start by going back to the way you behaved in the beginning of your relationship, when you were flirting naturally (most couples did not flirt and that’s why they hadn’t found any opportunity of expressing their love outside intercourse). Offer one another gifts, with no reason. There is no need for them to be expensive, what really matters are only your thoughts and feelings when you offer them.
Kiss her more. Call her at least once a day to tell her that you love her. Leave love-notes in unexpected places where you are sure she will find them. Date as if you were teenagers, and this was your first date. Don’t forget that there’s always another option, another possibility to choose.
There are many people in love but miss a lot of chances to be really happy for years. A lot of them realize that they forgot how to behave, and that only when they go back to the first stage of their relationship, they really felt happy when they were courting each other constantly. However, you know that practice makes you perfect and following these guidelines, you will soon see that you become an expert in the art of flirting and courtship.
Try, be patient, keep in mind your own experience of life and the results will soon amaze you.


SENSUAL VACATIONS

A very simple and efficient method to obtain such wonderful results is to organize sensual vacations. Such “erotic mini-vacations” may last one night, a weekend or even longer. The main goal is to get out of the routine, regardless of the fact that you are in bed or out of it, to flirt with and really court your partner.
You can arrange this vacation in advance.
Thus you can talk about: an aphrodisiac breakfast in bed, a sensual massage, making love in unusual places, a new erotic position or any other kind of erotic fusion that you are certain your lover will fully enjoy. Or, why not, a whole night for making all your shared fantasies come true. Naturally, every couple has a specific idea about what is good for them, what suits them, what they had always loved to do.
It is preferable that you send these signs a couple of days before the event so that your partner is surprised, but not surpassed by the events. Acting this way will also permit your partner to anticipate and even fantasize about what is going to happen. It doesn’t have to be too expensive – you can put it all together in your house or you can have a special dinner or a picnic in two.
Whatever you do and wherever you are, what really matters is abandoning yourself completely to your partner and trying to do wonderful things together.
Then take the time to discuss what happened, describe in details your feelings, in order to see what went right and what didn’t. It would be best if each of you organizes these vacations in turns, so that each of you has the opportunity to choose, act and decide according to own preferences.

IT’S KISSING TIME!

Don’t miss any opportunity to learn to be a better kisser. Spend a lot of time practicing the art of kissing when you are turned on or whenever you feel horny. As a result of erotic massage, you may learn to caress your lover in an extremely erotic way. Grant yourself a whole night and announce your lover that you will not make love in an ordinary manner. Then get creative, use your imagination and be happy.
Some couples become highly aroused even if they do not intend to have sexual intercourse, while for other couples it is very hard, maybe out of the question. Of course you could end by touching each other or one of you could help the other have an orgasm but without ejaculation. Yet it is not necessary that the erotic fusion end with an orgasm with ejaculation for both of you, even if this was the way you used to make love. Oral excitation without ejaculation-orgasm is well known and also preferred by most people.

THE “REAL MAN” MYTH

It is regrettable that nowadays many men think strongly that any form of physical love must end with intercourse. Many women (maybe most of them) have repeatedly said that they would prefer more kisses and embraces before and during an intimate moment. Generally almost all men think that a “real man” has sex for hours and never plays like a teenager. This determines that a fairly large number of women who do not want an intimate relation yet refuse men and the kind of actions that could lead to lovemaking.
On the other hand, for many men touching and embracing are unfortunately considered as leading to sexual intercourse. They have become accustomed to this pattern of thinking to such a degree that they are unable to distinguish between the physical act and other forms of fusing with their beloved. A change in this pattern of thought requires a lot of time and effort. Such a man needs encouragement, help and taught to enjoy sensual, erotic experiences without intercourse. It will probably seem strange to him in the beginning, but in time he will become more self-assured, will-powered and virile.

WHY NOT SEX?

Why shouldn’t a couple want to have sex? There are a lot of reasons. Few of us want or can make love all the time or, to be more precise, exactly when the person we love wants to. This is why sex is not an optimal solution, applicable no matter when, which could help maintain intimacy and harmony of a couple.
Thus, in a long-term relationship, there are a lot of situations in which both partners would like to express their mutual love. For different reasons though, the intimate contact can not take place: during last months of pregnancy, immediately after birth, after a surgical procedure, in between stages of an illness etc. All these situations pled in favor of the method presented above, because even in such cases you will be able to make love to your beloved in the absence of the physical act itself.
For many loving, strong couples making love without sex plays a special part in day-to-day life, even if none of the previous situations exists. Acting like this, the couples bring into their lives the missing element and express their love in unusual, yet appealing manner, enriching their relationship.
But, as in the case of any other problem, this one also depends on the harmony and equilibrium between sex and erotic manifestations that exclude the physical contact. The goal should be to reach and maintain that ideal state in which both of you are exceptionally satisfied, fulfilled and happy about your love life.

Become the Cosmic Couple – Brahma and Saraswati

 

 

 

Brahma, The Creator, wanted it to be that way and thus he created the Principle of the Universe; the Primary Energy came out from him and the Mind came out from this energy. Then there were the subtle elements and from them the multitude of worlds. Finally, from this world’s humans’ actions came the chain of cause and effect.”

Mundaka Upanishad

 

THE INNER CREATIVE ATTITUDE
In order to progress on the love path and to complete oneself, the human has to adopt an inner creative attitude, which means a positive mental attitude. This has to express the dynamic of life and has to spring out from an ideal, a purpose in life.

Such an attitude is better called and categorized as “the cosmic optimism”. It consists in recognizing and identifying oneself with the primary energy that created everything. The creative attitude gives us an advantage because it gives the possibility to contact the source of our own being, along with the unlimited capacity of spiritual evolving.

This attitude has to put a mark on our behaviour every moment and to be the pillar that we lean on in the every day life. It means trust, the recognition of the Divine in each and every one of us, the belief that we are the embodiments of some superior principles that we can only reach by spiritual knowledge.

The creative attitude is itself a part of the evolution process.
The worldly, physical boundaries can be easily overcomed by approaching such a creative attitude and by applying it with wisdom.

Foe example, in the same way there have been notable successes in commerce. The ones involved in this kind of activity can mobilize so that they imagine they are full of beneficial, attractive energy. It makes an unbeatable barrier for doubts and negative emotions.

As far as the Tantric sexuality is concerned there are so many barriers that have to be overcomed. And a bracing, creative attitude is also the one that works wonders by eliminating a lot of doubts, uncertainties. It works, at the same time, as a great virility force.

Impotence and sexual frustration are direct effects of lack of sincerity and affective openness. It will finally lead to a feeling of inner emptiness. For these people life has no meaning.

By looking up to high spiritual ideals all the time we will feel full of a creative attitude and permanent creative capacity. Gayety and a contagious good mood will open doors to wonderful possibilities for you.

And when such a state appears while making love with sexual continence there will be incredible types of wonderful feelings and emotions in your lives.

BRAHMA AND SARASWATI
“Saraswati, Brahma’s spouse, shines even more then the light of ten million moons. The celestial fire is purifying her jewels. She is the Mother of the Vedas; she is the Nature itself and the Master of Arts and Science. Sarawasti is smiling all the time and she is unbelievably beautiful. Her body is covered with a lot of jewels and pearls.”

Saraswati Stotra

 

Brahma is the name of the creative aspect (face) of the Divine. His symbol is the golden egg or the aura. In Tantric cosmology Brahma represents the embodiment of the entire creation. Because he governs all destinies and things in the world it is very important and necessary for you to “become Brahma” or that “Brahma to be in your favour”.

Eastern teachings say that you can become a certain thing by identifying with it. Thus, by identification, the power of creativity is in your hand at any time.

By seeing the identity between your own being and creation there is a new conscience that radiates from the “centre” of the Golden Egg. An efficient technique of identification with Brahma and with the universal creative energy is that of imagining and visualizing yourself as surrounded by an aura in the shape of an egg, shining, golden-yellow or by an aura full of positive energy; imagine how bright rays, full of warmth and force go from this aura and spread around lightning and feeding the life.

The senses are Creativity’s instruments. Their origin is in the inner subtle Brahma’s domain. They have their manifestations in the physical reality and you know them as the organ of senses: the eyes, the nose, the mouth, the ears and the skin. Esoteric tradition considers the mind to be the instrument of a sixth sense.

Saraswati is the name that Hindi people gave to the feminine counterpart of Brahma. She is seen as “The Master of the 64 Arts” from which the art of loving is considered as first and the most important. The feminine energy or the Shakti represents the Creator’s power.

Without it there is no creation. Thus Brahma and Saraswati make the inseparable Cosmic Couple, as well as the Creative Aspect and the Creative Energy. This dual principle belongs to every creation act. The unity between these two primary principles is a very important thing in the Tantric erotic game.

When the two lovers identify themselves with these high ideals all the aspects in relation with their intimate relationship take the form of extremely important and profound significance. This thing is extremely important in the Art of loving.

Saraswati’s Symbol is an Indian musical instrument with seven strings known as Vina. The shape of this instrument makes you think of a woman’s body and the sound that it produces is just like a wonderful voice. Vina represents the “senses’ instrument”, Brahma’s pleasure. By playing this instrument Saraswati expresses her joy that no one has ever seen before.

The seven strings of Saraswati’s instrument symbolize Nature structured in its evolution: the seven rays of creation, or the natural order of the transformations that we see all around us.

In science we can find this division to seven in the periodical chemical elements table. In music there are seven notes in the scale; the ray of light divides into seven basic colours and there are also seven evolutionary stages in the Tantric theory. This principle of seven belongs also to the esoteric literature.

Both Brahma and Saraswati must be visualized with a golden light shining through. Just like the sun they spread a blissful, creative light, filled with energy. By identification with these superior Truths, any couple can advance a lot on the Tantric path.

This identification supposes that there is a specific, abstract meditation and an interior special power. By becoming “Brahma and Saraswati” the Tantric couple will be able to evoke the archetype that created them and that defines them.

“Except for Brahma, who is the Supreme Self, there is only space. Besides space there is the air. Besides air there is fire. Besides fire there is water. Besides water there is the earth. Besides earth there is vegetation. Besides vegetation there is food. Besides food there is the body and there is also the entire humanity.”

Taittiriya Upanishad

 

“When there is a complete identification with Saraswati, all 64 arts become immediately known. Saraswati is the Mother of the four Vedas, the Auspicious Goddess.”

Saraswati Stotra

 

“Brahma initiated the process of creation. After dividing itself into a man and a woman these two made love. Thus appeared the entire category of mortals.”

Shiva Purana

 

 

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Fundamental Techniques of Erotic Massage: Kneading

Kneading addresses the deeper tissues and especially the muscles. It consists in getting the grip of the muscles and other deeper tissues and lifting them up, according to the elasticity of ones muscles and tissue and squeezing them between the fingers or fingers and palms through pressure in the deeper
areas.

THE TECHNIQUE
1. Kneading in folds: This is what we may actually call a traditional method, as it applies on both wide and plat areas, and on the segments (arm, forearm, thigh, and shank).

You may vary on the pressure and on the length of the segment to grip on one time. Thus, you will recourse to a smaller grip (between the fingers), the medium grip (between the fingers and the palm), and the large grip (between the tips of the fingers).

The most common of these is the kneading in fold with medium grip: the fold of muscles and tissue is squeezed by the grip formed by the fingers and palm
of the hand, compressing the tissue with the palms, and benefiting from the pressure it puts on the deeper tissues.

Repeat the movement several times on the same place, and then move your hands longitudinally and transversally in the neighboring areas.

2. On plane surfaces, such as the back, and on the areas with a lot of flesh, such as the hips, get a grip of a long fold of muscles, with the fingers and the palms.

Get this grip tight, raise it and then press it on the deeper levels, without letting go of it.

After working on such a smaller area, move on to a neighboring part, until the entire back of hip is thoroughly massaged. This is the so-called wave
kneading.

Of course, you will use this technique only if the elasticity of the skin and tissue allows it.

3. On the level of the circular segments, besides the traditional fold kneading there are also two special forms: circular kneading and winding kneading.

For both forms, get a grip of the tissue with a circular grip, with both hands. The circular kneading is done as follows: place both hands on the surface to be knead (in “bracelet” or “in ring”).

The muscles are caught between the fingers and the palms, and now this thing is done alternating the pressure on the right hand and on the left hand.

In both cases, the muscles will be pressed on the support plane, only that after each movement the pressure is weaker, and the muscles are relaxed.

The pressure force can be middle or small, according to the muscle volume and resistance.

The circular and winding kneading are done in the reversed sense in which the lymph and the blood normally circulate. For instance, in the case of the
feet, do this technique from the ankles to the thighs.

4. Another technical possibility of doing this type of massage is to use the fists on the buttocks or thighs.

5. In the abdominal area there is a special technique, besides the fold kneading we just described. Use the sides of your hands to massage this area without disturbing the energies involved in digestion.

All these kneading techniques are known and practiced for a long time.

THE EFFECTS OF KNEADING
1. Kneading favors the deep circulation and the elimination of the toxins.

2. Kneading keeps the muscles fit, preventing the appearance and manifestation of muscular atrophies.

3. Squeezing the muscles develops mechanically the elasticity, preventing the appearance of muscular breaking, as a consequence of sudden contractions.

4. Other muscular properties, such as elasticity, contractility, and conductibility are thus physiologically stimulated.

5. The above-mentioned are the explanation for the recovery of weakness, atrophy, and muscular insufficiency caused by prolonged immobility,
traumatisms, or by some muscular affections through massage, and especially through kneading.

Fundamental Techniques of Erotic Massage: Battement

The battement manoeuvres applied on the skin and soft tissues of the body are the most exciting techniques of massage.

They derive from “whipping with small branches” technique, which is the massage applied after steam baths, since the oldest times.

These manoeuvres are performed either mechanically or manually. They consist in applying rhythmical strokes with various parts of the hand.

HOW TO DO IT
The battement techniques are grouped in:
1. Rattling manoeuvres – which can be done using the sides of the palms, the fingers, or the inferior third of the forearms.

2. Treading manoeuvres – which can be done using either the palm and the fingers held so as to form a cup, or a dipper (treading “in cup”, “in cupping glass” or “in dipper”), or with the fist (the palm or
the sides)

3. Splashing manoeuvres

4. Percussion manoeuvres

1. The rattling manoeuvres are the most known and most used. A first form is the tangent rattling using the fingers.

For this technique, bring the elbows close to the trunk, palms out front, and the tips of the fingers “fall” perpendicularly on the surface of the skin.

This is the finest form of rattling, applied on the sensitive areas such as the abdomen and face. This is a surface manoeuvre, without getting to the deeper areas of the body.

It requires a lot of mobility and suppleness from the part of the masseur.

Another rattling variant is the “whipping with small branches” technique. For this, spread the elbows from the trunk, the fingers slightly bent and spread; the fingers touch the skin at a small distance from one another, in an alert rhythm, stroking with their lateral-dorsal sides.

When stroking the skin and when hitting themselves, the fingers produce a certain characteristic sound, similar with “whipping with small branches”.

Yet another rattling manoeuvre is done with the side of the palms. In this case, the elbows are close to the trunk, palms out front. The massage of this region is done with the side of the palm. This is a more incisive manoeuvre.

In the variants of rattling with the tips of the fingers, using the sides of the palms, the fingers, or the inferior third of the forearms, the arms need to stay close to the trunk, and the forearms need to stay close to the massaged area, so that the strokes are not too high or too powerful.

The intensity of the strokes needs to be reduced when applying the strokes on a sensitive area or tissue, and it needs to be medium or even high when applying the strokes on large muscles or thick layers of less sensitive tissues.

The rhythm usually indicated for rattling is very alert, but in certain areas – for instance the head – it can be also done slowly.

2. The treading manoeuvres are done with the fingers close to one another and the palms forming a cup (treading “in cup”, “in cupping glass” or “in dipper”), or with the fist.

The treading in cup is less harsh, and because of the air compressed between the palm and the skin, the strokes cause a special muffled sound.

The treading with the fist is a powerful manoeuvre, indicated especially in the muscular and less sensitive areas (thighs, buttocks) of strong, healthy
people.

There are 2 variants: treading with the fist (when the fingers are closed into the palm, and they massage the skin) and treading with the lateral of the fist (with the fist closed, stroke with the side). These manoeuvres are a bit tougher.

Less tougher are the treading manoeuvres done with the fist partially closed, so that between the fingers and the palms there still is a small space, ensuring the elasticity.

Fundamental Techniques of Erotic Massage: Vibrations

These manoeuvres consist in impressing the tissue with a large number of oscillatory movements per the unity of time.

They perform small dislocations of the skin, and tissue, as well as various undulant pressures. These manoeuvres can be applied manually or with the help of certain machines named vibrators.

The vibrating movements are similar to a continuous trembling and result from the alternative contractions of the muscles of the arm, palm, and fingers.

In the case of manual vibrations, there is a large scale of techniques: manoeuvres done with the tips of the fingers, with the palm of the hand, with the hand, with the fingers, with the fist.

The mechanical, rhythmical and uniform vibrations can be adjusted in terms of the frequency and amplitude of oscillations, in rapport with the size of the area to be massaged, with the thickness and sensitivity of the tissues on
smaller areas, on a short, medium or long interval of time.

THE EFFECTS OF VIBRATIONS
The fine and long manoeuvres are claming, reducing the skin and superficial tissues sensitivity causing a sensation of numbness, warmth and relaxation.

The ampler and more powerful manoeuvres determine an activation of the deeper local circulation, which is exteriorized in cutanat hyperthermia.

The vibrations are combined with the softening, friction and pressure manoeuvres, contributing to the increase of their efficiency.

Their effect is calming, relaxing and decongesting, reason for which their are indicated in the treatment of both painful and congestive affections of the internal organs, of the lesions accompanied by muscular contractions, and in the case of psychic tensions.

The mechanical vibrations done in a rapid rhythm with increased amplitude have a double effect, preventing the deposit of the adipocites, concomitantly with their mobilization from the fat.

Therefore, these methods are indicated in the treatment of cellulite and obesity.

A larger look on the effects of the principal massage manoeuvres gives us reasons to say that they are reflected mainly on the blood circulation.

Through the same massage techniques the sympathetic system acts on the veins from the striate muscle, in a vas-dilatation sense as a consequence of the predominance of the beta receptors from the vascular wall.

The energetical massage manoeuvres determine also the activation of acetyl-coline, which is the chemical mediator between the terminal parasympathetic fibres and the sympathetic and parasympathetic ganglionar
fibres, responsible for a peripheral dilatation in a first stage, so that after it contributes to the appearance of the compensatory adrenosympathic
reactions, which release adrenaline.

These are only some of the complex intimate reactions generated by a simple massage. The detailed effects we just mentioned refer to the arterial circulation and only the implication of the nervous system in the peripheral
vascular adjustments is capable of explaining their persistence in time.

The beneficial influences of the massage are also reflected on the content of the blood vessels: thus, a massage session will be followed by a slight increase in the haemoglobin as well as of the number of leucocytes and haematites.

These modifications are explained through the reflex stimulation of the organs and the mobilization of the blood from the deposit organs.

Before Beginning Erotic Massage

In the following we will introduce you to the roles of the masseur and the receiver of the massage, as well as the most comfortable positions during the massage.

THE RECEIVER OF THE MASSAGE
In order to properly receive a massage all you need is the will to accept and the desire to enjoy your lovers gift to you.

Your capacity of allowing your lover to have full control during the massage will govern your capacity to receive pleasure. Be ready to accept the form or the model the massage will take.

This does not mean that you have to continue with the massage, if you find an unpleasant or disturbing aspect of the massage. Keep your right to say “stop” at any time, if you find it necessary.

Also, keep in mind that the massage is meant to enhance your sensitivity to ecstatic, enlightening experiences. For some people, this beatitude can be difficult to stand. No matter what you do, make sure you enjoy your body.

THE RECEIVER’S POSITION

When your lover receives a massage, he or she needs to have the spine straight and relaxed. For the first part of the massage, the preparation and the front, your lover will lay on the back. In order to be relaxed and comfortable, and to have the spine relaxed and straightened, it may be useful a rolled blanket underneath the knees and a small pillow under the head.

Make sure that your lovers legs are stretched, not crossed (definitely avoid that!) and symmetrically placed. Verify if his or her body is stretched and the head aligned with the spine and feet.

For the back, when your lover will be facing down, it is recommendable that you placed a rolled blanket under his ankles, as this will lift his legs and will ease the pressure on the knees.

For the face-up position, roll a small blanket and place it under the knees so that the spine is relaxed. Also, place a small pillow under the head. For the face-down position, use a small rolled blanket under the ankles to ease the pressure of the knees.

THE MASSEUR

As the masseur, do your best to free your mind of any sexual reward. Devote yourself to the operation of healing, and empty your mind, so that you can be a vessel filled with Gods healing energy, transmitted through your hands. Your purpose is to serve, heal or give pleasure.

In order to give your lover a sensual massage you need to feel fine, and natural. Sitting or standing, straighten your spine and relax your shoulders. Breathe deeply, slowly and regularly.

You do not need to spend extra energy or make any special efforts. All you need is enough energy to keep the form of your arms. The more you relax your body, the more Gods harmonizing and healing energies will flow to your hands and from here to your lover.

Make sure that the starting point and then all the rest of the movements come from your inferior abdomen. Let your hands be simple instruments to transmit the energy of love. Almost all the essence needs a cursive, gentle touch, as you walk your hand over the water.

Moving your hands freely over your lovers body you will direct the flow of the energy to the sexual center. While you do this, your lover may experience a tremendous state of sexual arousal, located in the area of the genitalia and of the abdomen.

If you feel that you or your lover are to aroused, stop and place your hands in one of the pause positions so that the energetic circulation will slow down, and your lover does not perceive the same sexual rush.

Synchronize your breath with that of your lover, to help the relaxation process focus all your awareness in your palms, then inhale and exhale together with your lover.

Although this may seem way too simple to you, the results are amazing and surprising. When you feel more peaceful and balanced, you can start again the massage and transmission of the sexual energy.

A well-done massage will reflect the transfer of the energy to such a degree that your lover will feel complete and fulfilled.

THE MASSEUR’S POSITION

During the massage, you will sit on your heels. You might discover that your knees and shanks might hurt. In this case, place a rolled blanket between your heels and buttocks. Focus on your own spine, torso and head. The spine should be straight as much as possible. The upper part of the chest and back is wide open, with the shoulders and armpits relaxed.

Fundamental Techniques of Erotic Massage: Softening

The movements used in the manual massage – known as manual techniques – are very numerous and varied. Some masseurs modify and combine old methods or try to create new movements to impress through their diversity and complexity.

The massage techniques have suggestive names according to the type of the movement or its influence on the tissues.

According to the effects of the organism, the massage techniques have been divided in two great groups:
1. Main or fundamental techniques

2. Secondary, helping, or completion techniques

THE MAIN OR FUNDAMENTAL TECHNIQUES OF MASSAGE
They are named main or fundamental because regardless of the characteristic of the area they work on, they are indispensable from the massage session. Working the soft parts of the body is methodical, one after the other, from the surface to the depths.

The sequence of the five fundamental techniques is the following:

1. the softening (effleurage)

2. the friction

3. the kneading

4. the battement

5. the vibrations

THE SECONDARY TECHNIQUES OF MASSAGE
They are called secondary because they complete the action of the main, fundamental techniques. The secondary techniques are usually intertwined among the fundamental ones. Some of the secondary techniques derive from the fundamental ones, and come to complete the basic techniques.

The most important secondary techniques are:

1. sifting and rolling

2. pressures

3. tractions and tensions

4. shaking

5. pinching

THE FUNDAMENTAL TECHNIQUES

THE SOFTENING (EFFLEURAGE)
This technique normally targets the teguments. It consists of rhythmical, soft sliding over the body, applied either with the back of the hands or with the palms, in the sense of back-turning blood flow of the venal and capillary blood-vessels and in the sense of the blood flow of the lymph in the space and lymphatic vessels.

THE SUCCESSION AND THE RHYTHM OF THE MOVEMENTS

The initial, introductory softening – is named like this because any massage session will begin with this technique. The variations it allows range from long, lingering gliding of the hands up to short and more vigorous movements.

However, keep in mind that this is an erotic massage. The rhythm and the intensity of the work will grow gradually, as the movements have a stimulating character. They aim to “warm up” the receiver for the next techniques.

The final softening should be performed in the very end of the massage session. It has the following characteristics: the rhythm and intensity will decrease gradually, so the effect will be calming and relaxing.

The succession of the movements will be reversed from those of the introductory softening – the masseur will start with short vigorous movements and will end with long lingering movements.

The massage should be circular, in the sense that it should begin and end with the same technique.

The rhythm of the gliding should be a bit faster than the flow of blood through the veins. As we indicated in the definition of the softening, their sense is determined by the superficial blood circulation or the return of the blood in the veins through the capillary veins, and the flow of the lymph in the spaces and lymphatic vessels.

Thus, the gliding on the arms and legs will be from the extremities to the joint point with the body. On the trunk, the gliding follows the sense of the circulation towards the heart. On the throat and neck the movements are from the head to the shoulders and shoulder blades.

THE TECHNIQUE ITSELF
The softening is performed with:
The fingers – use the tips of the fingers. This technique is addressed mainly to small round surfaces.

The palms or the back of the hand – the fingers may be either spread or held together. It is applied to plane, straight surfaces, such as the back.

The pressure of the movements will be superficial and it will be exercised strictly on the nervous endings and vessels of the skin. When you desire to act more forcibly on the blood circulation in the deeper tissues, especially in the muscles, you need to use stronger methods, performed with:

the hands

the exterior sides of the hands

the fists

Consequently, in the softening methods, the pressure applied is adjusted to the nature and consistency of the tissues and especially to the needs of the person receiving the massage.

Fundamental Techniques of Erotic Massage: Friction

THE FRICTION
The softening is a surface manoeuvre, addressing mainly the derma and epidermis. The friction addresses mainly the subcutanate tissue, represented by the hypoderm.

In some parts of the body, the subcutanate tissue also contains muscles. For instance, at the face and neck, where the hypoderm is slightly present, the action in the massage through friction acts also on the facial muscles.

The friction consists in the pressure applied to the soft subcutanate tissues on the profound strata, or on a tough plane (bones or cartilages) and in their moving in the limits of their own elasticity.

THE TECHNIQUE ITSELF
We can do the friction using:
the tips of the fingers

the face or the back of the hand

the fist – the nodes of the fist

On small portions use the tips of the three middle fingers: the index, the middle finger and the ring finger

On larger portions – the manoeuvres will be done using the sides of the palms, the entire palm or the fists.

On very large portions: work with both palms and fingers spread

According to the sensitivity of certain segments or areas, we will keep in mind the following:

On sensitive portions we will apply the friction with the thicker and softer part of the palm,
on the larger, less sensitive parts of the body we will work using the closed fist.

On the small areas we will apply the friction using one hand, and on a large ones using both hands, simultaneously and symmetrically.

The sense of applying the friction is different, according to the anatomical particularities of each segment. The movements may be circular or ellipsoidal.

On the ligaments, and tendons, the sense of the friction is linear and the friction will consist in short and rhythmical come-and-go-movements.

The Achilles tendon will be fractioned using the “clench” technique, either with the thumb and index or the sides of both hands.

Another sense of applying the friction refers to a particular case, the “undulate” or zigzag friction which is required down the spine, descending from the neck to the buttocks.

After the intensity applied, the friction is divided into: superficial, medium, and profound.

The pressure can increase or decrease at any moment. We accentuate the pressure of the manoeuvre inclining the fingers or the hand or applying the free hand over the other, to add to the pressure.

Dose the intensity of the pressure after the sensitivity of the skin and tissue and most importantly taking into account your lovers indications. Be gentle on the sensitive areas and vigorous on the less sensitive ones.

From a methodical point of view, the friction is simple when applied with the fingers, sides of the hands, palms, etc. on small areas of the body. It is also stimulating for the nervous central system and for the peripheral nervous system, when applied in a fast rhythm. In the therapeutic activity this method is applied as either stimulating or calming method.

Creating a Sensual Atmosphere for Massage

Creating the scene, the atmosphere for the sensual massage implies not only physical action, but also psychic, spiritual actions. In the following, we will present to you how to create the proper atmosphere for the sensual massage, from all the above-mentioned points of view.

1. THE PREPARATION OF THE PHYSICAL SPACE MEANT FOR THE SENSUAL MASSAGE
It is rightfully worth dedicating a little time to prepare the room you are about to use for the sensual massage. There is nothing more disagreeable than to interrupt the massage in order to look for a pillow, a towel, essential oil or something to drink.

If both lovers will give and receive the sensual massage, in turns, you may prepare the room for the massage together. This is a very good start.

Make sure you have a warm, intimate room, where nobody will disturb you. A good surface to lie down during the massage would be a mattress or several blankets placed on top of one another.

You may also use the regular massage table, but this does not allow such an intimate contact between the lovers as does the mattress or the blankets. If you use massage oil, make sure that it has been warmed up previously to the massage, and that it is at hand.

The room should be also kept at a steady, warm temperature. Cover the parts of your lovers body that you do not massage with a large towel or a thin blanket. A small pillow of another blanket will help him sit more comfortably.

In order to create a genuine celebration of sex and eroticism, embellish the room with flowers, burn a little incense, and decorate the space with various object pleasurable to the eye and charged with spiritual value.

Improve this romantic atmosphere by using a diffuse light, created either with colored light bulbs (red and violet are the most recommended), or with candles. You may also play some relaxing music in the background, as its effects are guaranteed.

You may take a bath at a shower together before beginning the massage. This is a wonderful method to forget the daily worries and to make you both feel relaxed, safe and clean.

USING THE OILS

The massage oils allow the hands to slide slowly and sensually over your lovers body without tensions or frictions. They also nourish the skin. Choose between the fragranced or non-fragranced oils.

Of the later category, vegetal oils, such as the sunflower oil or raisin oil are perfect. The olive oil is a little thick, and mineral oils, such as the baby oils are not well-absorbed by the skin, therefore use them only if you have no other options available.

You may discover that the fragranced oils have a more pleasant effect. There is a close connection between the smells and the sexual excitation, partly due to the fact that some fragrances contain perfumes that resemble or imitate the smell or the human sexual hormones and pheromones (messenger substances created by our glands).

The musk is the most known and common of these substances, and it smells like the male sexual hormone, the testosterone. Fragranced oils have been used since the ancient ages in the sexual rituals. They will charm both lovers.

Producing your own massage oil is easy, amusing, and much cheaper than buying an already created massage oil. As a base, any type of vegetal oil without smell and with the right consistency will probably do. Add a few drops of perfume, or essential oils, in the combination that you choose and here it is!

Keep in mind that smell is a very personal matter. Make experiences with the essential oils until you find a smell that you really like and enjoy. Try the rose, musk, ylang ylang, orchid, vanilla, or cinnamon essences in the combination that you like, as they are beneficial to the techniques of the sensual massage.

Once you created the massage oil, keep it in a sealed bottle in the refrigerator. If you store it is a airy, warm place, it will become impossible to use. Warm the oils recipient before the massage by placing it in a pot with hot water.